Oh Copa thank you for your advise. I think you are so right, I am depressed. I do take Prozac but I still feel so bad about not being able to cope better. It is one of my worst nightmares for hm to come to my door and want to stay. I know I couldn't make him leave. I am not that strong, I wish I was. I know you did the right thing when you made your son leave. I can only imagine how very hard that had to be. I pray with time I will become stronger. It has been so cold here in Oklahoma and I worry about him having a coat, if he has food, a place to sleep.....my imagination goes crazy. This is like pure torture. I try to act "normal" because my husband(step-dad) says he is done helping him. We have been out so much money trying to help him. My son lies so much, I can't believe anything he says. He has so much potential but just continues to spiral out of control. I thought that when my son was in his forties, he would have his life together. I just love him so much. Thank you again Copa for your post. It does help knowing I have friends, like you and all the other wonderful people on here that hold me up. We all stick together and that helps me so..so. Much. (((Hugs)))