Dear Okie Girl...
You don't need to cut off your feelings for your son. He will always be your son, and you will likely always carry him in your heart.
But. Sometimes it is helpful to pull back a little and look at the big picture. You want to "help" but... is this kind of "help" actually helping him? Or is it just maintaining the status quo. Sometimes, our "need" of being the "helper" overrides common sense. Putting yourself in debt to help someone who isn't prepared to help themselves doesn't make sense. Use your head. Protect yourself - and your relationship. Your son doesn't have the right to destroy you or your other relationships.
