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<blockquote data-quote="Jabberwockey" data-source="post: 677969" data-attributes="member: 18238"><p>Okie, everyone else has been giving wonderful advice and encouragement so I've chosen not to comment until now. I seem to be very similar in attitude to your husband. One thing that the Corps teaches you is accountability. If you make a mistake, OWN IT! It is very difficult for us to look at someone else who is being coddled and having their mistakes covered and not be confused. Add to this the fact that most who go into any branch of the service tend to have a great desire to protect. I can tell you from personal experience that I've had times that resisting the urge to beat the living crap out of our son because he was causing Lil pain. Usually, the only thing that kept me from doing it was knowing that if I did that then it would cause her even more pain. Its a very frustrating way to live. I've never given her this ultimatum but also wont deny that the thought has crossed my mind. Sorry honey. Then we both got, basically, on the same page and it got a LOT better for us. Being on a different page about your children will cause all kinds of friction for no good reason.</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p></p><p>That's complete and utter crap. Your "child" is a 44 year old MAN! Lil may see this and comment.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Its a guy thing. I've said it before but it bears repeating here. Women tend to be nurturers and there is never really an end to that. Men tend to be preparers. Once the preparation is complete and they are out the door, we are basically done. Not that we don't love and care for our children, but we've prepared them to be accountable and successful and expect them to sink or swim on their own. Doesn't mean we wont help from time to time, just means that we tend to wait till they've gone down for the last time before stepping in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jabberwockey, post: 677969, member: 18238"] Okie, everyone else has been giving wonderful advice and encouragement so I've chosen not to comment until now. I seem to be very similar in attitude to your husband. One thing that the Corps teaches you is accountability. If you make a mistake, OWN IT! It is very difficult for us to look at someone else who is being coddled and having their mistakes covered and not be confused. Add to this the fact that most who go into any branch of the service tend to have a great desire to protect. I can tell you from personal experience that I've had times that resisting the urge to beat the living crap out of our son because he was causing Lil pain. Usually, the only thing that kept me from doing it was knowing that if I did that then it would cause her even more pain. Its a very frustrating way to live. I've never given her this ultimatum but also wont deny that the thought has crossed my mind. Sorry honey. Then we both got, basically, on the same page and it got a LOT better for us. Being on a different page about your children will cause all kinds of friction for no good reason. That's complete and utter crap. Your "child" is a 44 year old MAN! Lil may see this and comment. Its a guy thing. I've said it before but it bears repeating here. Women tend to be nurturers and there is never really an end to that. Men tend to be preparers. Once the preparation is complete and they are out the door, we are basically done. Not that we don't love and care for our children, but we've prepared them to be accountable and successful and expect them to sink or swim on their own. Doesn't mean we wont help from time to time, just means that we tend to wait till they've gone down for the last time before stepping in. [/QUOTE]
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