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<blockquote data-quote="Jabberwockey" data-source="post: 677985" data-attributes="member: 18238"><p>I've had many different experiences with this. When I first got out of boot camp and went home to visit, I was hanging with a friend at a bar. We had hung out there when we were both in school, playing pool and such. We didn't cause trouble so the owner never said anything. They served food so didn't have to worry about police involvement unless we caused trouble or got caught with liquor. Anyway, my friend had turned 21 and we were sitting at the bar waiting on our turn at the pool table. My friend ordered a beer and the owner asked if I wanted one. I informed him that I wasn't 21 yet. He looked at me and said "You're in the military, right?" I said yes. He said "If your old enough to die for your country, your old enough to have a beer." then got me one. </p><p></p><p>The reason I mention this at all is a BIG part of the reason he sold me a beer wasn't that I was in the military although that did play a part. It was how I carried myself. I behaved responsibly and respectfully. I was accountable by being honest about being under aged and manned up by not trying to get drunk and abuse the privilege that he had allowed. I would dare say that under similar circumstances, most of our Difficult Child's would have happily taken advantage and gotten sloppy drunk or telling their under aged friends that he sold to minors.</p><p></p><p>This is where the problem comes in with over protecting our children. They must learn these lessons themselves, no matter how painful it might seem. And the problem with major life lessons like this is that they cant be taught, only learned.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jabberwockey, post: 677985, member: 18238"] I've had many different experiences with this. When I first got out of boot camp and went home to visit, I was hanging with a friend at a bar. We had hung out there when we were both in school, playing pool and such. We didn't cause trouble so the owner never said anything. They served food so didn't have to worry about police involvement unless we caused trouble or got caught with liquor. Anyway, my friend had turned 21 and we were sitting at the bar waiting on our turn at the pool table. My friend ordered a beer and the owner asked if I wanted one. I informed him that I wasn't 21 yet. He looked at me and said "You're in the military, right?" I said yes. He said "If your old enough to die for your country, your old enough to have a beer." then got me one. The reason I mention this at all is a BIG part of the reason he sold me a beer wasn't that I was in the military although that did play a part. It was how I carried myself. I behaved responsibly and respectfully. I was accountable by being honest about being under aged and manned up by not trying to get drunk and abuse the privilege that he had allowed. I would dare say that under similar circumstances, most of our Difficult Child's would have happily taken advantage and gotten sloppy drunk or telling their under aged friends that he sold to minors. This is where the problem comes in with over protecting our children. They must learn these lessons themselves, no matter how painful it might seem. And the problem with major life lessons like this is that they cant be taught, only learned. [/QUOTE]
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