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What is wrong with the system? At the end of my rope...
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 578363" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Karen--</p><p></p><p>First, big (((Hugs))).</p><p></p><p>Like other parents here, I've been there done that - so I completely understand your frustration with the system.</p><p></p><p>My advice is for you to start using the rules to your advantage. 17 year olds know their rights - they know that parents cannot kick them out of the house, they know that parents cannot force them to go to school, and they know that parents cannot force them to take medications or into medical treatment or anything like that. </p><p></p><p>Know YOUR rights. You legally own everything in that child's bedroom. EVERYTHING. I don't care if he raked lawns and bought an Xbox "with his own money" - legally, it is YOURS.</p><p></p><p>You CAN give him an ultimatum: go into treatment or you take away everything.</p><p></p><p>Strip his bedroom except for the things the law requires parents to provide: a bed (mattress on the floor), a light, come clothing (not $200 sneakers - just some things from Goodwill are fine), and three meals a day.</p><p></p><p>No - your son will not like it. But your goal is to get him into treatment - or get him out of your house! If he gets mad - let him take his pot-smoking behind to someody else's house. Then to cover your own backside, call the police and report him as a "runaway"....they won't do anything about it at his age - but it creates a report showing that you did the right thing.</p><p></p><p>Call the polioce any time you find drugs or drug paraphenalia in your home.</p><p></p><p>Call the police any time your son threatens you....physically or verbally. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry that you are dealing with this....it's a horrible position to be in.</p><p></p><p>(((Hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 578363, member: 6546"] Karen-- First, big (((Hugs))). Like other parents here, I've been there done that - so I completely understand your frustration with the system. My advice is for you to start using the rules to your advantage. 17 year olds know their rights - they know that parents cannot kick them out of the house, they know that parents cannot force them to go to school, and they know that parents cannot force them to take medications or into medical treatment or anything like that. Know YOUR rights. You legally own everything in that child's bedroom. EVERYTHING. I don't care if he raked lawns and bought an Xbox "with his own money" - legally, it is YOURS. You CAN give him an ultimatum: go into treatment or you take away everything. Strip his bedroom except for the things the law requires parents to provide: a bed (mattress on the floor), a light, come clothing (not $200 sneakers - just some things from Goodwill are fine), and three meals a day. No - your son will not like it. But your goal is to get him into treatment - or get him out of your house! If he gets mad - let him take his pot-smoking behind to someody else's house. Then to cover your own backside, call the police and report him as a "runaway"....they won't do anything about it at his age - but it creates a report showing that you did the right thing. Call the polioce any time you find drugs or drug paraphenalia in your home. Call the police any time your son threatens you....physically or verbally. I'm sorry that you are dealing with this....it's a horrible position to be in. (((Hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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