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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 225865" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Personally, I don't think it was a battle worth fighting at all. If he didn't want the Sprite, I would have simply said it is all we have unless you want water. If there was some drink that he wanted that you didn't want him to have, I would have simply told him his choices were the Sprite or the water, the other drink is being saved or is mine and I'm not sharing it. There is no way I would have taken the dirnk and then forced him to eat even one bite without some liquid. </p><p> </p><p>As much as possible, I gave my daughter choices. Having control was and is important to her. She can't always have what she wants but she can choose what is available to her.</p><p> </p><p>When she was younger and didn't want to eat what I fixed, I gave her a choice: eat the meal or fix herself a sandwich and some fruit.</p><p> </p><p>You and your son were in a power play. Worse yet, you were a bully. Do it my way or else. Sadly, your son can never win a power play. You're bigger, stronger, smarter and have the power. He knows he can't win but that doesn't mean he won't try. So, the less you use your power, the better chance you have to get him to cooperate. Don't force something that really doesn't matter in the long run. </p><p> </p><p>Think before you react. It takes practice but the more you do think rather than just react, the easier it becomes. If you feel you overreacted and you were wrong, simply apologize and admit you weren't being fair. It actually does a child good to see parents are human and can make mistakes, that they can behave badly but be adult enough to say they were wrong and get on with their lives. It is a good example for them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 225865, member: 3626"] Personally, I don't think it was a battle worth fighting at all. If he didn't want the Sprite, I would have simply said it is all we have unless you want water. If there was some drink that he wanted that you didn't want him to have, I would have simply told him his choices were the Sprite or the water, the other drink is being saved or is mine and I'm not sharing it. There is no way I would have taken the dirnk and then forced him to eat even one bite without some liquid. As much as possible, I gave my daughter choices. Having control was and is important to her. She can't always have what she wants but she can choose what is available to her. When she was younger and didn't want to eat what I fixed, I gave her a choice: eat the meal or fix herself a sandwich and some fruit. You and your son were in a power play. Worse yet, you were a bully. Do it my way or else. Sadly, your son can never win a power play. You're bigger, stronger, smarter and have the power. He knows he can't win but that doesn't mean he won't try. So, the less you use your power, the better chance you have to get him to cooperate. Don't force something that really doesn't matter in the long run. Think before you react. It takes practice but the more you do think rather than just react, the easier it becomes. If you feel you overreacted and you were wrong, simply apologize and admit you weren't being fair. It actually does a child good to see parents are human and can make mistakes, that they can behave badly but be adult enough to say they were wrong and get on with their lives. It is a good example for them. [/QUOTE]
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