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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 225906" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>JLady - BIG revelation here. It does sometimes take time to see the triggers. With a typical child doing what you did is parenting. It is parenting in the way that you know and can do without thinking about. </p><p> </p><p>This is why it is so difficult to parent a difficult child. It is not in a comfort zone for us. </p><p> </p><p>You have to think about your goal. What is it you were trying to accomplish? Was it worth the meltdown? Was it worth upsetting easy child? </p><p>Some things are worth it. </p><p> </p><p>So next time he says he does not like Sprite, what will you do? Be prepared. Think through the possibilities. Do not react quickly with a difficult child. Think it through. We many times regret a quick reaction. We say things we can not take back and sometimes put ourselves into a corner. It is sometimes the best thing to do - take time to think it through - for both of you. </p><p> </p><p>Good job!!! I am happy for you to have this revelation.</p><p> </p><p>Beware of the 'better' parents telling you how to parent your difficult child. YOU KNOW BEST - you are learning it now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 225906, member: 391"] JLady - BIG revelation here. It does sometimes take time to see the triggers. With a typical child doing what you did is parenting. It is parenting in the way that you know and can do without thinking about. This is why it is so difficult to parent a difficult child. It is not in a comfort zone for us. You have to think about your goal. What is it you were trying to accomplish? Was it worth the meltdown? Was it worth upsetting easy child? Some things are worth it. So next time he says he does not like Sprite, what will you do? Be prepared. Think through the possibilities. Do not react quickly with a difficult child. Think it through. We many times regret a quick reaction. We say things we can not take back and sometimes put ourselves into a corner. It is sometimes the best thing to do - take time to think it through - for both of you. Good job!!! I am happy for you to have this revelation. Beware of the 'better' parents telling you how to parent your difficult child. YOU KNOW BEST - you are learning it now. [/QUOTE]
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