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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 287003" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I would first look for a copy of "What To Expect the Toddler Years". It will give you a general idea of what milestones could be expected. Then contact your County Health Dept and ask for a screening or developmental checkup. Or else contact a pediatrician and get her in for a screening as soon as possible with them. county Health Dept should be free, while the pediatrician may be covered by insurance or may not be. Around here the County is incredibly thorough. If they learn here that a parent refuses to take a toddler to appropriate therapy it quickly becomes court ordered. And then custody changes hands to a relative willing to help or at the least a guardian is appointed to oversee things. In cases of divorce, the judges will only remove custody from shared parenting if the child is abused or if they are not being given the therapy/treatment needed. It isn't done willy nilly, or easily, but for parents who flat out refuse treatment after being told and shown it is needed (and the County pays for ALL of this treatment - speech, Occupational Therapist (OT), PT, nutrition, shots, help with reading, ALL of it is available at ZERO cost regardless of income - and THIS is why the courts will give 3 or 4 warnings over six months and then take custody away from the parent who will not let the child have the therapy. It has been the only way some child abusers have lost custody if the child is too scared to point the finger at the abusive parent. It is NOT done lightly.)</p><p></p><p>We also have a program called "Success by Six" that promotes good care in those critical early years. It isn't just about reading in our county - it is about all aspects of a child's development. They can be accessed and are part of the head start program.</p><p></p><p>Actually, contacting Head Start might be the way to find help if hte county doesn't have it. I am NOT talking about the County Mental Health, but about the Health Dept.</p><p></p><p>I would do my best to get a complete evaluation while she is with you. Then, if biomom will not take her to appts or therapy or checkups, you may be able to intervene.</p><p></p><p>I also strongly suggest an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation for sensory issues and for problems like low muscle tone. It isn't always apparent to a parent what low muscle tone is. thank you could go and go and go all day nonstop but he also had low muscle tone. He didn't build up tone the way he was supposed to, and the Occupational Therapist (OT) helped with that quite a lot.</p><p></p><p>Above ALL else, enjoy her, talk to her, keep her close to you (physically close, use a sling or carrier if needed, it can help sometimes. Worked wonders with the little girl a cousin adopted from China. She was put into a sling at 20 months and within six months was responding to verbal requests, had started to babble and coo where before she made no sounds vocally, there is something about the attachment that you build when they are close enough to hear your heartbeat that really helps develop a bond and stimulate development. I don't know why it works, but it seems amazing with the children I have seen it used with.</p><p></p><p>Have a good time with her!</p><p></p><p>oh, Tana Hoban has picture books (the kind on cardboard) that have great black and white pics and some with faces. They were something every one of my children and every child I gave a copy too came back to over and over and over. They seem to appeal very strongly to toddlers. I know one was called Black on White, another was White on Black. Here is a link to her books on amazon: <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias&#37;3Daps&field-keywords=tana+hoban&x=0&y=0" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias&#37;3Daps&field-keywords=tana+hoban&x=0&y=0</a>.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 287003, member: 1233"] I would first look for a copy of "What To Expect the Toddler Years". It will give you a general idea of what milestones could be expected. Then contact your County Health Dept and ask for a screening or developmental checkup. Or else contact a pediatrician and get her in for a screening as soon as possible with them. county Health Dept should be free, while the pediatrician may be covered by insurance or may not be. Around here the County is incredibly thorough. If they learn here that a parent refuses to take a toddler to appropriate therapy it quickly becomes court ordered. And then custody changes hands to a relative willing to help or at the least a guardian is appointed to oversee things. In cases of divorce, the judges will only remove custody from shared parenting if the child is abused or if they are not being given the therapy/treatment needed. It isn't done willy nilly, or easily, but for parents who flat out refuse treatment after being told and shown it is needed (and the County pays for ALL of this treatment - speech, Occupational Therapist (OT), PT, nutrition, shots, help with reading, ALL of it is available at ZERO cost regardless of income - and THIS is why the courts will give 3 or 4 warnings over six months and then take custody away from the parent who will not let the child have the therapy. It has been the only way some child abusers have lost custody if the child is too scared to point the finger at the abusive parent. It is NOT done lightly.) We also have a program called "Success by Six" that promotes good care in those critical early years. It isn't just about reading in our county - it is about all aspects of a child's development. They can be accessed and are part of the head start program. Actually, contacting Head Start might be the way to find help if hte county doesn't have it. I am NOT talking about the County Mental Health, but about the Health Dept. I would do my best to get a complete evaluation while she is with you. Then, if biomom will not take her to appts or therapy or checkups, you may be able to intervene. I also strongly suggest an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation for sensory issues and for problems like low muscle tone. It isn't always apparent to a parent what low muscle tone is. thank you could go and go and go all day nonstop but he also had low muscle tone. He didn't build up tone the way he was supposed to, and the Occupational Therapist (OT) helped with that quite a lot. Above ALL else, enjoy her, talk to her, keep her close to you (physically close, use a sling or carrier if needed, it can help sometimes. Worked wonders with the little girl a cousin adopted from China. She was put into a sling at 20 months and within six months was responding to verbal requests, had started to babble and coo where before she made no sounds vocally, there is something about the attachment that you build when they are close enough to hear your heartbeat that really helps develop a bond and stimulate development. I don't know why it works, but it seems amazing with the children I have seen it used with. Have a good time with her! oh, Tana Hoban has picture books (the kind on cardboard) that have great black and white pics and some with faces. They were something every one of my children and every child I gave a copy too came back to over and over and over. They seem to appeal very strongly to toddlers. I know one was called Black on White, another was White on Black. Here is a link to her books on amazon: [url]http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=tana+hoban&x=0&y=0[/url]. [/QUOTE]
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