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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 134539" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>First, make sure to take a close look at what the child is being exposed to at home and away. You can find aggression and violence in some pretty surprising places if you pay attention. Good guys/bad guys is pretty typical young male stuff but I would eliminate any programming, DVDS, computer games, video games (even dad's!). It really sets a confusing double standard if it's okay for them to do it on the screen but not in real life. </p><p> </p><p>This is one where you have to go at it by trial and error. Lulu, in your case I probably wouldn't continue to play if my son were shooting and bombing me. As soon as the play turned to battle I'd quietly say "We don't play fighting in our house" or "I don't play fighting" and I would leave. </p><p> </p><p>As for your girlfriend's situation if ignoring it hasn't worked or it's getting worse, I would probably give humor a try. "Oh no!! If you kill yourself we're going to be stuck here with all these extra Girl Scout cookies!". </p><p> </p><p>Sometimes doing or saying the unexpected takes the wind out of their sails and helps a lot. For example y difficult child gets really grumpy at having to wait for cars to get out of the school parking lot at the end of his day. Sometimes he grumbles and mumbles about how he wishes he had a bazooka to blow up the cars. Not long ago he was really in a funk and started in and then I tossed out a "difficult child, hand me up a bazooka, will you?" I never talk like that and always discourage it in him so it totally set him to giggling.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 134539, member: 701"] First, make sure to take a close look at what the child is being exposed to at home and away. You can find aggression and violence in some pretty surprising places if you pay attention. Good guys/bad guys is pretty typical young male stuff but I would eliminate any programming, DVDS, computer games, video games (even dad's!). It really sets a confusing double standard if it's okay for them to do it on the screen but not in real life. This is one where you have to go at it by trial and error. Lulu, in your case I probably wouldn't continue to play if my son were shooting and bombing me. As soon as the play turned to battle I'd quietly say "We don't play fighting in our house" or "I don't play fighting" and I would leave. As for your girlfriend's situation if ignoring it hasn't worked or it's getting worse, I would probably give humor a try. "Oh no!! If you kill yourself we're going to be stuck here with all these extra Girl Scout cookies!". Sometimes doing or saying the unexpected takes the wind out of their sails and helps a lot. For example y difficult child gets really grumpy at having to wait for cars to get out of the school parking lot at the end of his day. Sometimes he grumbles and mumbles about how he wishes he had a bazooka to blow up the cars. Not long ago he was really in a funk and started in and then I tossed out a "difficult child, hand me up a bazooka, will you?" I never talk like that and always discourage it in him so it totally set him to giggling. [/QUOTE]
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