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<blockquote data-quote="starcloaked" data-source="post: 136617" data-attributes="member: 3632"><p>I haven't been around here much lately, but wanted to jump in and respond to your post because it's a lot like my difficult child. He's been doing much better lately with help from a great team at school, and we're starting to realize that a lot of that "bad guy" talk comes from him seeing himself as a bad guy. His self-esteem was a lot lower than we realized, and he actually feels like when he's playing superhero stuff (as many boys do), he SHOULD be the bad guy. There's no quick fix, but I try to make my guy feel like a superhero as much as I can. I also try to explain in detail why scary talk like that isn't allowed. I'm coming to realize that because of his NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD), he can't understand the context differences when he hears others talk about scary things like vampires or bad guys, and when he takes on that persona and, for example, pipes up in a restaurant "I drink blood!" I try to remind him that it's scary for others when he says that stuff, and it's only okay when people are already talking about vampires. He needs to be taught that kind of social stuff verbally, and it takes a while to integrate it into his thinking, and to sometimes think of himself as the good guy, and not the bad guy. </p><p></p><p>One other thing is that since a lot of the bad guy stuff is about power (bad guys have more power than kindergarteners at least) we try to show him how much more power good guys have.</p><p></p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="starcloaked, post: 136617, member: 3632"] I haven't been around here much lately, but wanted to jump in and respond to your post because it's a lot like my difficult child. He's been doing much better lately with help from a great team at school, and we're starting to realize that a lot of that "bad guy" talk comes from him seeing himself as a bad guy. His self-esteem was a lot lower than we realized, and he actually feels like when he's playing superhero stuff (as many boys do), he SHOULD be the bad guy. There's no quick fix, but I try to make my guy feel like a superhero as much as I can. I also try to explain in detail why scary talk like that isn't allowed. I'm coming to realize that because of his NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD), he can't understand the context differences when he hears others talk about scary things like vampires or bad guys, and when he takes on that persona and, for example, pipes up in a restaurant "I drink blood!" I try to remind him that it's scary for others when he says that stuff, and it's only okay when people are already talking about vampires. He needs to be taught that kind of social stuff verbally, and it takes a while to integrate it into his thinking, and to sometimes think of himself as the good guy, and not the bad guy. One other thing is that since a lot of the bad guy stuff is about power (bad guys have more power than kindergarteners at least) we try to show him how much more power good guys have. Star [/QUOTE]
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