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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 466352" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>For the moment, while we "talk", ignore the whole difficult child-impact component.</p><p></p><p>You're talking about a 9YO male easy child. Right?</p><p></p><p>BONDING at this stage is critical, in my opinion. With both Mom and Dad - but not together. He is at a stage where he will begin to redefine his relationship with you. It won't be adult-to-adult, but its the beginning of the beginning, if you know what I mean.</p><p></p><p>Therefore, ignore STUFF. What he needs is time and attention. But it doesn't have to be $$ stuff. You can do that sometimes... go for "coffee" or a movie or something. But especially for Dad and Son... they need to find some no-$$ things to do together. For example... at 9, he's at a good age to start looking at cars. Cruise the lots, discuss the merits and disadvantages of different sorts of cars, look at cars you would never be able to afford to buy, and cars you would never be caught dead in... you can drive there, or bike there... that sort of thing. If Dad enjoys fishing, does easy child want to learn? What about carpentry or mechanics stuff, if Dad is into that? (if not, is Grandpa? because THAT relationship is also changing at this point). The advantage of no-$$ stuff is that, if you want to do this once a month or 3x per week... you can still afford to do it!</p><p></p><p>In other words... what kinds of activities can two of you enjoy together that you can see doing together 10 years from now, and 20 years from now... and start those NOW.</p><p></p><p>There is no greater gift to a child than the undivided attention of a parent.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 466352, member: 11791"] For the moment, while we "talk", ignore the whole difficult child-impact component. You're talking about a 9YO male easy child. Right? BONDING at this stage is critical, in my opinion. With both Mom and Dad - but not together. He is at a stage where he will begin to redefine his relationship with you. It won't be adult-to-adult, but its the beginning of the beginning, if you know what I mean. Therefore, ignore STUFF. What he needs is time and attention. But it doesn't have to be $$ stuff. You can do that sometimes... go for "coffee" or a movie or something. But especially for Dad and Son... they need to find some no-$$ things to do together. For example... at 9, he's at a good age to start looking at cars. Cruise the lots, discuss the merits and disadvantages of different sorts of cars, look at cars you would never be able to afford to buy, and cars you would never be caught dead in... you can drive there, or bike there... that sort of thing. If Dad enjoys fishing, does easy child want to learn? What about carpentry or mechanics stuff, if Dad is into that? (if not, is Grandpa? because THAT relationship is also changing at this point). The advantage of no-$$ stuff is that, if you want to do this once a month or 3x per week... you can still afford to do it! In other words... what kinds of activities can two of you enjoy together that you can see doing together 10 years from now, and 20 years from now... and start those NOW. There is no greater gift to a child than the undivided attention of a parent. [/QUOTE]
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