The advice you have received is good advice.
As one of us posted, this is not going to be an easy road for you.
There is nothing you can do that will make a difference. Your daughter chose to do as she did, and these are the consequences of her choices. Unless she is required to deal with the consequences of her choices, she will not be motivated to change.
She cannot come home.
What she does with her belongings is up to her.
Are there grandchildren involved?
If there are no grandchildren yet, thank your lucky stars ~ trust me, it is worse when there are innocent babies involved.
At the bottom of my posts is a detachment site. It was very helpful to me when I began the process of figuring out how to live with myself and behave the way I needed to with my son.
It took me such a long time.
If you are not ready to tell your child you will not help her until she is doing the right and healthy thing, then resolve to do as little as possible for her.
Nothing at all would be best.
Is a treatment option available to her?
Homeless shelters in your area you could direct her to?
I am so sorry this is happening to you, and to your famiy.
Keep posting about what is happening and how you feel and what you have decided to do.
We have all been right where you are.
You can do this, and come through in one piece.
But it's hard.
It makes such a difference to have other parents who have gone through it to hear you as you struggle to know the right thing to do.
I am glad you found us.
Barbara
