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what to do when difficult child refuses to go for help?
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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 372512" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p>quite frankly, at 10, your difficult child doesnt really get a vote. </p><p> </p><p>i will tell you this though, and do with it want you want. my difficult child told me flat out that she doesnt want to know about all of these appts until we are walking in the door...she told me it gives her one more thing to stress over. i've always been a big believer in telling my kids everything and "preparing" them. it never once occurred to me that it wasnt a *good* thing. but it turns out it wasnt.</p><p> </p><p>i will also tell you that my difficult child thought she was the queen of the universe before we started down this path, and also thought there was nothing wrong with her. (maybe there is, maybe there isnt, who knows!). as soon as she had a million appts her self esteem PLUMMETED and she was convinced she was damaged somehow (her words, not mine). i finally actually did take the approach that there is nothing wrong with you and that we just have to go because the doctor/school/whomever said its what we have to do...and "because you are soo smart" we need to discover all the things that are "special" about you...</p><p> </p><p>so having said all that, i would drop the whole conversation until it even gets closer. </p><p> </p><p>he sounds overwhelmed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 372512, member: 8831"] quite frankly, at 10, your difficult child doesnt really get a vote. i will tell you this though, and do with it want you want. my difficult child told me flat out that she doesnt want to know about all of these appts until we are walking in the door...she told me it gives her one more thing to stress over. i've always been a big believer in telling my kids everything and "preparing" them. it never once occurred to me that it wasnt a *good* thing. but it turns out it wasnt. i will also tell you that my difficult child thought she was the queen of the universe before we started down this path, and also thought there was nothing wrong with her. (maybe there is, maybe there isnt, who knows!). as soon as she had a million appts her self esteem PLUMMETED and she was convinced she was damaged somehow (her words, not mine). i finally actually did take the approach that there is nothing wrong with you and that we just have to go because the doctor/school/whomever said its what we have to do...and "because you are soo smart" we need to discover all the things that are "special" about you... so having said all that, i would drop the whole conversation until it even gets closer. he sounds overwhelmed. [/QUOTE]
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