Hi,
I prefer to say that we , the parents need help to be more caring and responsive parents and and his input is important. The therapist could in a very genuine way ask the child , if his parents are big nags and bugging him and does he feel that his needs are bing met or his interests are being furthered by them. He could offer to help get you off his back .
I would focus on connecting , relationship building , just chatting - like to a friend focusing on perspective taking. Mentors, older brothers, buddy-tutors who spend fun time together and chatting helps a lot . Also charity work , sports clubs , hiking etc where the activities are intergenerational .We can try to be more of a ' personal coach ' , help him with his goals and how he can meet them
It helps to first enter his world , connect and then problem solve
Allan