Jana,
My difficult child has been on most of those. The anti-psychotic that finally has helped some with difficult child's behavior is Loxapine. He is also taking the Topamax and the Lamictal for mood stabilization. Along with that the Clonidine also helps with the ADHD and sleep.
It's hard because I know there aren't a lot more medications out there.
That van driver-YIKES!! Doesn't sound like he should be driving. I can see my difficult child doing the same thing!