I apologize for not reading the entire post, but the thought came to me that maybe he's not at a therapeutic level for Seroquel?
My difficult child 2, same age, takes 700mg Seroquel XR at bedtime and 400mg XR at lunchtime. His psychiatrist admits this is a very high dose for someone his age, but the fact that he's functioning fine on it and seems to be stable tells him that he needs to be at this level.
So I just wondered if maybe your difficult child could benefit from a bump in his dosage?