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what to do when you're a prisoner in your own home?
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<blockquote data-quote="graceupongrace" data-source="post: 286793" data-attributes="member: 7371"><p>ironysfavor,</p><p></p><p>So sorry you are going through this. He is fortunate to have someone who cares so much.</p><p></p><p>I have found that goal setting and incentives do not work for my 15-year-old difficult child -- and I've tried some very creative ideas. The psychiatrist told me that many kids with these issues will never respond to incentives because they're just not wired that way. They live for immediate gratification, and cannot see ahead even to a reward for a week of good behavior. </p><p></p><p>We are in a similar situation with grades & homework. I have learned to encourage my difficult child to do his homework, and then let it go. He has to own it. I cannot make him care. However, I will not let him use the computer for fun and games if I know he has assignments due. I won't provide him with the means to avoid his homework. (This is after years of struggling over schoolwork. At this age, he knows what's at stake.)</p><p></p><p>I realize you have bigger issues going on, and the others have given you better advice than I can offer. But I hope that my experience with the small things is helpful.</p><p></p><p>I'm still pretty new here, but I have found there are many wise parents who are ready to jump in and help you and support you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="graceupongrace, post: 286793, member: 7371"] ironysfavor, So sorry you are going through this. He is fortunate to have someone who cares so much. I have found that goal setting and incentives do not work for my 15-year-old difficult child -- and I've tried some very creative ideas. The psychiatrist told me that many kids with these issues will never respond to incentives because they're just not wired that way. They live for immediate gratification, and cannot see ahead even to a reward for a week of good behavior. We are in a similar situation with grades & homework. I have learned to encourage my difficult child to do his homework, and then let it go. He has to own it. I cannot make him care. However, I will not let him use the computer for fun and games if I know he has assignments due. I won't provide him with the means to avoid his homework. (This is after years of struggling over schoolwork. At this age, he knows what's at stake.) I realize you have bigger issues going on, and the others have given you better advice than I can offer. But I hope that my experience with the small things is helpful. I'm still pretty new here, but I have found there are many wise parents who are ready to jump in and help you and support you. [/QUOTE]
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