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<blockquote data-quote="gottaloveem" data-source="post: 246930" data-attributes="member: 1953"><p>Oh Star, I'm so sorry you as well have lost a child.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" /> I don't think I knew that, but you may have told me when Alex first died. Like you, I don't remember much from the beginning.</p><p></p><p>Some of the things I have heard that has been memorable, appreciated or kind, is:</p><p></p><p>"You are in my prayers". (and I'm not religous, but it is a nice thing to say)</p><p>"We are thinking of you".</p><p>And the best thing ever, even to this day (almost three years later) is TALK about my son, tell me the things you remember, share with me about my son. Please don't forget him, because I never do. I don't think there is a right thing to say, people used to say to me, "I just don't know what to say", that is fine, better that then trying to come up with something. I used to say that <em>nobody </em>has any words that could make me feel better.</p><p></p><p>I agree that the worse things you can say to somebody who has lost a child is:</p><p>"he/she is in a better place" (HUH? I think a better place is here, with us)</p><p>"g-d has a plan" ( please, you don't think that could possibly soothe a broken moms heart?)</p><p></p><p>Remind her in the very beginning to take each moment at a time, to please be gentle with herself. As you know, the blow of losing a child messes with your mind, body and soul and you absolutely have to not expect a lot from yourself. </p><p></p><p>So sorry you are facing another loss of a child, (albeit somebody else's this time) I know he was very close to you and your family.</p><p></p><p>Sending many hugs..</p><p></p><p>(((((HUGS))))</p><p></p><p>Love,</p><p>Lia</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gottaloveem, post: 246930, member: 1953"] Oh Star, I'm so sorry you as well have lost a child.:sad-very: I don't think I knew that, but you may have told me when Alex first died. Like you, I don't remember much from the beginning. Some of the things I have heard that has been memorable, appreciated or kind, is: "You are in my prayers". (and I'm not religous, but it is a nice thing to say) "We are thinking of you". And the best thing ever, even to this day (almost three years later) is TALK about my son, tell me the things you remember, share with me about my son. Please don't forget him, because I never do. I don't think there is a right thing to say, people used to say to me, "I just don't know what to say", that is fine, better that then trying to come up with something. I used to say that [I]nobody [/I]has any words that could make me feel better. I agree that the worse things you can say to somebody who has lost a child is: "he/she is in a better place" (HUH? I think a better place is here, with us) "g-d has a plan" ( please, you don't think that could possibly soothe a broken moms heart?) Remind her in the very beginning to take each moment at a time, to please be gentle with herself. As you know, the blow of losing a child messes with your mind, body and soul and you absolutely have to not expect a lot from yourself. So sorry you are facing another loss of a child, (albeit somebody else's this time) I know he was very close to you and your family. Sending many hugs.. (((((HUGS)))) Love, Lia [/QUOTE]
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