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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 401704" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Thanks again for the replies. We do have to pay for her while in the system. We don't mind because frankly we have to pay when she is with us and, at least there she is not out running the streets. It is more than we thought was fair, and we just hope there is no major emergency- because we are tight.I think these kids cost us no matter what in one way or another. The trick is to stay afloat isn't it?</p><p>I don't think RTFs are for everyone- but like I said in my post, I did see some kids benefit. Ask the hard questions before you decide either way. If I had it do again I'd ask what diagnosis do you do the best with? What kinds of kids take longer and why? Do you have any success data? How will a kid like mine do- average length of stay? I didn't know to ask these questions. I would try to talk to a therapist there and not their intake person who is trained to get you on the hook.</p><p>All cases and places are different-maybe you have hope with your child.</p><p> </p><p>Nancy,The abuse was when she was 4/5 by an older cousin and then a rape at age 13. We had no idea about either until Residential Treatment Facility (RTF). (One good outcome from the experience)</p><p>But as she hit puberty all heck broke loose. I understand this is common- thus the PTSD.Therapy has been going on since she was 12. Unfortunately for 2 years we were putting bandaides on a gushing wound because she had not disclosed the abuse- she wasn't ready.But wow the oppositional stuff and all the conduct problems- I can't believe she is so hardened. Do you feel the guilt as much as I do? Even though I know I have done my best, and that it's not my fault, I can't shake it some days? As a fellow teacher, I use to believe that troubled kids have troubled parents- wow am I eating crow! I like the idea of involving the PO by the way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 401704, member: 11001"] Thanks again for the replies. We do have to pay for her while in the system. We don't mind because frankly we have to pay when she is with us and, at least there she is not out running the streets. It is more than we thought was fair, and we just hope there is no major emergency- because we are tight.I think these kids cost us no matter what in one way or another. The trick is to stay afloat isn't it? I don't think RTFs are for everyone- but like I said in my post, I did see some kids benefit. Ask the hard questions before you decide either way. If I had it do again I'd ask what diagnosis do you do the best with? What kinds of kids take longer and why? Do you have any success data? How will a kid like mine do- average length of stay? I didn't know to ask these questions. I would try to talk to a therapist there and not their intake person who is trained to get you on the hook. All cases and places are different-maybe you have hope with your child. Nancy,The abuse was when she was 4/5 by an older cousin and then a rape at age 13. We had no idea about either until Residential Treatment Facility (RTF). (One good outcome from the experience) But as she hit puberty all heck broke loose. I understand this is common- thus the PTSD.Therapy has been going on since she was 12. Unfortunately for 2 years we were putting bandaides on a gushing wound because she had not disclosed the abuse- she wasn't ready.But wow the oppositional stuff and all the conduct problems- I can't believe she is so hardened. Do you feel the guilt as much as I do? Even though I know I have done my best, and that it's not my fault, I can't shake it some days? As a fellow teacher, I use to believe that troubled kids have troubled parents- wow am I eating crow! I like the idea of involving the PO by the way. [/QUOTE]
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