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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 401726" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I use to think that too, then I learned. I also thought that we could take any child and raise them to be well adjusted and successful just because we were good people. I thought we could undo anything they could be born with. Boy was I wrong. We were very naive and must have thought we were so powerful.</p><p></p><p>I don't feel guilty anymore. I use to ask what we did wrong that we couldn't fix her. I now understand there was only so much that environment can do and nature does the rest. She was born oppositional. What I do feel is deep responsibility for her and it's hard for me to turn my back on her. I have not yet mastered the art of detachment. I feel she has to hate herself and be very unhappy and not know how to change it. I grew up in a dysfunctional family with my father being alcoholic. I know what that fear as a child feels like and I just wish I could change that for my difficult child. The difference is that I had resilience and she was not born with resilience. I want her to want things to be different for herself.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 401726, member: 59"] I use to think that too, then I learned. I also thought that we could take any child and raise them to be well adjusted and successful just because we were good people. I thought we could undo anything they could be born with. Boy was I wrong. We were very naive and must have thought we were so powerful. I don't feel guilty anymore. I use to ask what we did wrong that we couldn't fix her. I now understand there was only so much that environment can do and nature does the rest. She was born oppositional. What I do feel is deep responsibility for her and it's hard for me to turn my back on her. I have not yet mastered the art of detachment. I feel she has to hate herself and be very unhappy and not know how to change it. I grew up in a dysfunctional family with my father being alcoholic. I know what that fear as a child feels like and I just wish I could change that for my difficult child. The difference is that I had resilience and she was not born with resilience. I want her to want things to be different for herself. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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