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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 164620"><p>After years of just trying to manage difficult child with a single diagnosis of ODD (at age 3)....by age 9, per HIS request...he was put on</p><p>a mood stabalizer. He KNEW he had anger issues, he knew he would lose control. His answer was "I can't help it". He also admitted he would purposely make himself angry to avoid crying.</p><p>Every intervention we ever tried failed. he had me in tears (at age 4) within hours of waking.</p><p>Stimulant was awful. Caused more irritability, anxiety, moodiness. Seemed like we were walking on egg shells all the time.</p><p> </p><p>You don't even realized you get sucked into this argument with a little kid. You are the adult and somehow they have this way to just **** the life out of you.</p><p> </p><p>With the mood stabalizer (lamictal for us) and "taking away" things. THAT worked. Took EVERYTHING away. He earned them back little by little. Didn't set long term goals to earn them back because he just wasn't capable of the long term.</p><p> </p><p>Took some time to get to the correct level of Lamictal, but it definately worked. We saw it, he felt it. Was on Lamictal for 3 years. This past year weaned off, didn't see the anger.</p><p> </p><p>After months of no medication he asked for Concerta to help him focus. He said that helped for a bit, but then he had a bad day, or maybe two and he blamed it on Concerta and never took it again.</p><p> </p><p>Wish I could say ODD is gone. But there are definately MORE good days than bad. (school is a struggle, everyday, all day.)</p><p>The very best thing at school was a "cool off" pass. Written in his IEP. Initially was put into place to help him recognize anxiety, frustration and anger setting in, using the pass to go to a designated room, person...calm down and rejoin. He did well this past year with that. did not blow up in class, was able to recognize those signs. however he learned to abuse the pass and just leave when ever he didn't feel like being there. suppose to regroup and rejoin. Well, he left and never returned to that class. On the upside, there was not the argument, anger, frustration, anxiety there once was.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 164620"] After years of just trying to manage difficult child with a single diagnosis of ODD (at age 3)....by age 9, per HIS request...he was put on a mood stabalizer. He KNEW he had anger issues, he knew he would lose control. His answer was "I can't help it". He also admitted he would purposely make himself angry to avoid crying. Every intervention we ever tried failed. he had me in tears (at age 4) within hours of waking. Stimulant was awful. Caused more irritability, anxiety, moodiness. Seemed like we were walking on egg shells all the time. You don't even realized you get sucked into this argument with a little kid. You are the adult and somehow they have this way to just **** the life out of you. With the mood stabalizer (lamictal for us) and "taking away" things. THAT worked. Took EVERYTHING away. He earned them back little by little. Didn't set long term goals to earn them back because he just wasn't capable of the long term. Took some time to get to the correct level of Lamictal, but it definately worked. We saw it, he felt it. Was on Lamictal for 3 years. This past year weaned off, didn't see the anger. After months of no medication he asked for Concerta to help him focus. He said that helped for a bit, but then he had a bad day, or maybe two and he blamed it on Concerta and never took it again. Wish I could say ODD is gone. But there are definately MORE good days than bad. (school is a struggle, everyday, all day.) The very best thing at school was a "cool off" pass. Written in his IEP. Initially was put into place to help him recognize anxiety, frustration and anger setting in, using the pass to go to a designated room, person...calm down and rejoin. He did well this past year with that. did not blow up in class, was able to recognize those signs. however he learned to abuse the pass and just leave when ever he didn't feel like being there. suppose to regroup and rejoin. Well, he left and never returned to that class. On the upside, there was not the argument, anger, frustration, anxiety there once was. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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