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What Would You Do? Go Fund Me account for Difficult Child's wife
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 752412" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I agree with you Busy. This is how I have operated in my life.</p><p></p><p>Because I was not spiritually connected, to base my choices and actions based upon intuition has not always served me. Only in my work was I well served by this and where a spiritual life, for me, was born.</p><p>,</p><p>I only want to add a few more thoughts about this situation that seeking finds herself in.</p><p></p><p>I guess one could look at it this way: To act from a full heart, from love, that one would want to have for a daughter in law, would be to define oneself from the strongest and best of what could be. And of course Seeking and her husband would act without seeking anything in return. But I believe it would take the strongest of people to not suffer some by doing this. Until they could let go again, what they would have wanted with their child. This would be, I guess, turning the other cheek, and offering only love and care.</p><p></p><p>But to hesitate to open oneself up to this, would be oh so understandable. Even in anonymity for me there would be pain. But then again, <em>there is already pain.</em></p><p></p><p>There remains the issue of anonymity and the feelings of husband who <em>does not want to go there. </em>I think Seeking owes most consideration to her husband, who has suffered so with her at the hands of his son. Should you decide to donate, I like apple's idea to do so in the name of somebody else.</p><p></p><p>I was not on the board for all of what has happened with your son, Seeking, but I remember enough. I would feel sad to see you reach out even indirectly in a way that your son could interpret as a desire to connect, unless he had made some sort of reparation.</p><p></p><p>Your son has free will. Free choice. At any point he could make this safer for you. At any point he could make it so that his wife could benefit from your support, financial, and moral.<em> He does not do so.</em></p><p></p><p>What I write is not coming from the spirit of tit for tat. I comes from the place of writing on the wall.</p><p></p><p>We live our lives in circumstances that are real. We also live our lives with hearts that yearn for more. When these paths cross where there is danger there can be real potential for harm and hurt.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 752412, member: 18958"] I agree with you Busy. This is how I have operated in my life. Because I was not spiritually connected, to base my choices and actions based upon intuition has not always served me. Only in my work was I well served by this and where a spiritual life, for me, was born. , I only want to add a few more thoughts about this situation that seeking finds herself in. I guess one could look at it this way: To act from a full heart, from love, that one would want to have for a daughter in law, would be to define oneself from the strongest and best of what could be. And of course Seeking and her husband would act without seeking anything in return. But I believe it would take the strongest of people to not suffer some by doing this. Until they could let go again, what they would have wanted with their child. This would be, I guess, turning the other cheek, and offering only love and care. But to hesitate to open oneself up to this, would be oh so understandable. Even in anonymity for me there would be pain. But then again, [I]there is already pain.[/I] There remains the issue of anonymity and the feelings of husband who [I]does not want to go there. [/I]I think Seeking owes most consideration to her husband, who has suffered so with her at the hands of his son. Should you decide to donate, I like apple's idea to do so in the name of somebody else. I was not on the board for all of what has happened with your son, Seeking, but I remember enough. I would feel sad to see you reach out even indirectly in a way that your son could interpret as a desire to connect, unless he had made some sort of reparation. Your son has free will. Free choice. At any point he could make this safer for you. At any point he could make it so that his wife could benefit from your support, financial, and moral.[I] He does not do so.[/I] What I write is not coming from the spirit of tit for tat. I comes from the place of writing on the wall. We live our lives in circumstances that are real. We also live our lives with hearts that yearn for more. When these paths cross where there is danger there can be real potential for harm and hurt. [/QUOTE]
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