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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 432632" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome Andrea.</p><p>I agree with-the others.</p><p>Paying for the TV, whether through working it off or somehow getting a job cutting grass or whatever is the right way to go.</p><p>Also, I would find another babysitter. I was thinking of her, and how she felt--traumatized, invaded, victimized--sheesh. Even when he gets the correct diagnosis and it "explains" why his behavior is the way it is, it does not take away from her feelings. My heart goes out to her.</p><p>Also, your son clearly is lacking in anger management so I'd do a lot of therapy in that regard. We have done therapy for yrs, and believe me, it takes yrs. but it is worth it. I am so proud of my difficult child. No,he's not perfect. He'll be the first to admit he has problems, but he's come a long way. </p><p>One thing he does (not so often any more) is to decrease personal space until he's got you backed into a wall. Your instinct is to either push back with-your hands or to push back with-your voice. Either way will make him light off. So we've gone over that in therapy a lot. I had to learn to calm myself (I'm claustrophobic so it was and is very hard) and say, "Remember what we talked about in Dr. R's ofce, about not pushing me into a corner? You are standing too close. I will talk to you and answer your question when you back up about 4 feet."</p><p>Once he started doing that, I knew there was hope.</p><p>He asked for praise, by the way, and I gave it to him. I lavished him with-praise.</p><p>Seems strange to praise someone for NOT beating you to a pulp, lol! but that's the way these kids' minds work.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 432632, member: 3419"] Welcome Andrea. I agree with-the others. Paying for the TV, whether through working it off or somehow getting a job cutting grass or whatever is the right way to go. Also, I would find another babysitter. I was thinking of her, and how she felt--traumatized, invaded, victimized--sheesh. Even when he gets the correct diagnosis and it "explains" why his behavior is the way it is, it does not take away from her feelings. My heart goes out to her. Also, your son clearly is lacking in anger management so I'd do a lot of therapy in that regard. We have done therapy for yrs, and believe me, it takes yrs. but it is worth it. I am so proud of my difficult child. No,he's not perfect. He'll be the first to admit he has problems, but he's come a long way. One thing he does (not so often any more) is to decrease personal space until he's got you backed into a wall. Your instinct is to either push back with-your hands or to push back with-your voice. Either way will make him light off. So we've gone over that in therapy a lot. I had to learn to calm myself (I'm claustrophobic so it was and is very hard) and say, "Remember what we talked about in Dr. R's ofce, about not pushing me into a corner? You are standing too close. I will talk to you and answer your question when you back up about 4 feet." Once he started doing that, I knew there was hope. He asked for praise, by the way, and I gave it to him. I lavished him with-praise. Seems strange to praise someone for NOT beating you to a pulp, lol! but that's the way these kids' minds work. [/QUOTE]
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