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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 480465" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am with Star to a point. Not sure I would sacrifice a friendship for $3, also not sure I would accept $$ from the mom when I know the kid is the one who took it. If he didn't and the person who told you is lying, well, that is one of the costs of addiction. NO ONE trusts you and you sometimes have to pay for something you didn't do.</p><p></p><p>I would expect the 18 yo ADULT to pay his debts. Not his Mommy. Yes, it was in her possession, so it was her responsibility. BUT he is an adult. That means adult consequences. </p><p></p><p>I would probably find a way to speak to him - and if he blew me off I might consider going to his BOSS and asking to have it taken out of his check. Or following him on a Fri or Sat night and asking him in front of his friend/girlfriend if he was ready to pay the $$ he stole back or if he wanted his friends to hear about how he can't be trusted wth even $5. Cause if it is so piddly an amount how come he won't pay it back???? ISn't he an ADULT? Surely that means he can pay $5 that he stole back. ESP if he doesn't want every employer he gets to hear about this - and if he doesn't want it going out in other ways too. Cause it would just pi$$ me off that he would say it is no big deal but then why won't he pay it back?</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't take $$ to that house again. And if I got something and the friend payed me back it would go into a pocket but it would be a small enough amt that I wouldn't epect her to pay me back.</p><p></p><p>I can say it if was my kid I would have gotten the change out of the couch if I needed to to pay you back. Or would pay you back with the first $$ I had if I was so broke I didn't have the $3. Then I would take it out of my kid's hide. </p><p></p><p>And likely insist he go live elsewhere if he was going to steal. I just won't live with that. Not of money out of my car, purse, bedroom. If he wants that lifestyle he can go pay for it himself. That is the line my parents drew when we ht 18 and it made sense to me and I don't see a reason to change it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 480465, member: 1233"] I am with Star to a point. Not sure I would sacrifice a friendship for $3, also not sure I would accept $$ from the mom when I know the kid is the one who took it. If he didn't and the person who told you is lying, well, that is one of the costs of addiction. NO ONE trusts you and you sometimes have to pay for something you didn't do. I would expect the 18 yo ADULT to pay his debts. Not his Mommy. Yes, it was in her possession, so it was her responsibility. BUT he is an adult. That means adult consequences. I would probably find a way to speak to him - and if he blew me off I might consider going to his BOSS and asking to have it taken out of his check. Or following him on a Fri or Sat night and asking him in front of his friend/girlfriend if he was ready to pay the $$ he stole back or if he wanted his friends to hear about how he can't be trusted wth even $5. Cause if it is so piddly an amount how come he won't pay it back???? ISn't he an ADULT? Surely that means he can pay $5 that he stole back. ESP if he doesn't want every employer he gets to hear about this - and if he doesn't want it going out in other ways too. Cause it would just pi$$ me off that he would say it is no big deal but then why won't he pay it back? I wouldn't take $$ to that house again. And if I got something and the friend payed me back it would go into a pocket but it would be a small enough amt that I wouldn't epect her to pay me back. I can say it if was my kid I would have gotten the change out of the couch if I needed to to pay you back. Or would pay you back with the first $$ I had if I was so broke I didn't have the $3. Then I would take it out of my kid's hide. And likely insist he go live elsewhere if he was going to steal. I just won't live with that. Not of money out of my car, purse, bedroom. If he wants that lifestyle he can go pay for it himself. That is the line my parents drew when we ht 18 and it made sense to me and I don't see a reason to change it. [/QUOTE]
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