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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 541128" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>First of all: big hugs.</p><p>What would start by asking: what is a realistic goal for her? Do you think you can have her work on the number of rages? Or maybe only focus on alternative outlets while melting down?</p><p>When she is calm, can you work on her options (ripping magazines, hitting pillows, loud vocalizations but no words...) and make her practice?</p><p>But is it realistic to expect her to control it a bit better by friday? I understand you want some kind of consequence, but taking a planned family trip away might too much.</p><p>Could you come up with a consequence that can be used at home and on the go? Maybe silence for x amount of time if she physically attacks you (once she is calm down the count down starts), followed by an apology and she has to explain why she says sorry. </p><p>Whatever you decide, be very cautious of what your "threat" is. Because you will have to follow through in order to be taken seriosly. </p><p>And if you're simply not up to a challenging trip (very understandable), you could explain it to her and leave the punishment part out of it "we need to work on your rages some more before we can take the trip. It will not be good for anyone to go in those circumstances" and then maybe ask her what she thinks she can do to control it better or make the rages more appropriate.</p><p>Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 541128, member: 11847"] First of all: big hugs. What would start by asking: what is a realistic goal for her? Do you think you can have her work on the number of rages? Or maybe only focus on alternative outlets while melting down? When she is calm, can you work on her options (ripping magazines, hitting pillows, loud vocalizations but no words...) and make her practice? But is it realistic to expect her to control it a bit better by friday? I understand you want some kind of consequence, but taking a planned family trip away might too much. Could you come up with a consequence that can be used at home and on the go? Maybe silence for x amount of time if she physically attacks you (once she is calm down the count down starts), followed by an apology and she has to explain why she says sorry. Whatever you decide, be very cautious of what your "threat" is. Because you will have to follow through in order to be taken seriosly. And if you're simply not up to a challenging trip (very understandable), you could explain it to her and leave the punishment part out of it "we need to work on your rages some more before we can take the trip. It will not be good for anyone to go in those circumstances" and then maybe ask her what she thinks she can do to control it better or make the rages more appropriate. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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