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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 541146" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Well, my personal take on this is that you have to treat your daughter therapeutically. Which means having a consequence, but not one that is punitive. What do I mean by that? Well, that the whole thing is handled in a way that is without anger or desire to "punish" on your parts but which does try to show her, in a loving way, that this is a boundary that you want to help her respect. No way would I stop her going on the trip - will just increase her rage and not teach her anything, <em>particularly</em> as it would be instituted arbitrarily and after the event. If you had said at some point that if she raged violently, she would not be able to go on this trip that might be different. Well, it would be different as you would have to follow through on what you had said. </p><p>Hugs. What you are facing must be so hard at times. She does need skilled help with this. Where are you with therapy for her?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 541146, member: 11227"] Well, my personal take on this is that you have to treat your daughter therapeutically. Which means having a consequence, but not one that is punitive. What do I mean by that? Well, that the whole thing is handled in a way that is without anger or desire to "punish" on your parts but which does try to show her, in a loving way, that this is a boundary that you want to help her respect. No way would I stop her going on the trip - will just increase her rage and not teach her anything, [I]particularly[/I] as it would be instituted arbitrarily and after the event. If you had said at some point that if she raged violently, she would not be able to go on this trip that might be different. Well, it would be different as you would have to follow through on what you had said. Hugs. What you are facing must be so hard at times. She does need skilled help with this. Where are you with therapy for her? [/QUOTE]
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