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What you need to know if a loved one dies?
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<blockquote data-quote="eekysign" data-source="post: 236802" data-attributes="member: 6479"><p>I second everything said above---HAVE a living will, and let your loved ones know what it says---ALL your loved ones. Also have an attorney-reviewed will. A messed up will is the cause of 99.9999&#37; of all family falling-outs! Know who your kids will go to (I'm currently getting my sister, if something happens to my mom...eek!), and your pets. Let everyone know exactly what's in your will---they may not want to hear it, but many witnesses make fewer will-contests from disgruntled relatives. </p><p></p><p>But it's the little stuff that you would forget about, that when someone close to you dies, becomes suddenly REALLY important. When you start having to ask everyone in the family, do you think they'd want to be buried or cremated or shot to the moon (hehe)? Open-casket or closed? Memorials to what charity? Religious service or not? Where would they want to be buried/spread to the earth? </p><p></p><p>It might seem sort of morbid to discuss funeral arrangements ahead of time, but sometimes you don't get the chance to, later. Those types of details become so personally significant when someone dies, and without a plan, you never really feel like you know if you "got it right". Even if the deceased wouldn't care if you "got it wrong", it gives YOU peace of mind.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and because we all have difficult children...if you're going to have money going to the kids, look up the concept of a "spendthrift" trust, and see if that is something your lawyer/state would advise/allow.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="eekysign, post: 236802, member: 6479"] I second everything said above---HAVE a living will, and let your loved ones know what it says---ALL your loved ones. Also have an attorney-reviewed will. A messed up will is the cause of 99.9999% of all family falling-outs! Know who your kids will go to (I'm currently getting my sister, if something happens to my mom...eek!), and your pets. Let everyone know exactly what's in your will---they may not want to hear it, but many witnesses make fewer will-contests from disgruntled relatives. But it's the little stuff that you would forget about, that when someone close to you dies, becomes suddenly REALLY important. When you start having to ask everyone in the family, do you think they'd want to be buried or cremated or shot to the moon (hehe)? Open-casket or closed? Memorials to what charity? Religious service or not? Where would they want to be buried/spread to the earth? It might seem sort of morbid to discuss funeral arrangements ahead of time, but sometimes you don't get the chance to, later. Those types of details become so personally significant when someone dies, and without a plan, you never really feel like you know if you "got it right". Even if the deceased wouldn't care if you "got it wrong", it gives YOU peace of mind. Oh, and because we all have difficult children...if you're going to have money going to the kids, look up the concept of a "spendthrift" trust, and see if that is something your lawyer/state would advise/allow. [/QUOTE]
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