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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 113237" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome aboard. As we often say "glad to have you but sorry you</p><p>had to find us".</p><p></p><p>I can not offer much valuable help as the issues are not the</p><p>same as mine. on the other hand, I would suggest that you probably are wise</p><p>to back off. Very, very often the Dads have an intense and rather distorted attachment to their daughters, particularly when</p><p>their has been a divorce or a death. It is not an "evil" thing</p><p>but a combination of guilt, fear, male/female differences etc.</p><p>in my humble opinion you are right to assume that you would be placing your own health in jeopardy by trying to be the assistant parent.</p><p></p><p>It is possible to love your SO but steer clear of his difficult child. If you live in a separate location he will find the relaxation and</p><p>comfort that he needs by visiting you. You can have the life you</p><p>deserve and "visit" with SO and difficult child as rarely or as often as you</p><p>care to. Getting absorbed in the chaos is not healthy. It is</p><p>going to get worse...and soon. Your SO deserves a "healthy" you</p><p>and so I suggest that you are not abandoning a sinking ship..you</p><p>are opting to leave a battleship and move to a peaceful alternative. Good luck. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 113237, member: 35"] Welcome aboard. As we often say "glad to have you but sorry you had to find us". I can not offer much valuable help as the issues are not the same as mine. on the other hand, I would suggest that you probably are wise to back off. Very, very often the Dads have an intense and rather distorted attachment to their daughters, particularly when their has been a divorce or a death. It is not an "evil" thing but a combination of guilt, fear, male/female differences etc. in my humble opinion you are right to assume that you would be placing your own health in jeopardy by trying to be the assistant parent. It is possible to love your SO but steer clear of his difficult child. If you live in a separate location he will find the relaxation and comfort that he needs by visiting you. You can have the life you deserve and "visit" with SO and difficult child as rarely or as often as you care to. Getting absorbed in the chaos is not healthy. It is going to get worse...and soon. Your SO deserves a "healthy" you and so I suggest that you are not abandoning a sinking ship..you are opting to leave a battleship and move to a peaceful alternative. Good luck. DDD [/QUOTE]
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