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When a difficult child changes, is it just random?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 41731" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My own experience, as somebody who had a mental illness is that it really depends on the cause of the bad behavior. It's not possible to learn to control, say, severe moodswings and sometimes you can't learn to control rages, and they get worse. Mine got worse as I got older until I found the right medications. My daughter, who is now 22, was a drug abuser and that was the cause of her bad behavior. We threw her out too. She changed when the drug abuse stopped, so there was an obvious reason. My child with autism is getting better every year. In his case, he has a neurological disorder that is being treated very effectively. He's an angel now, no longer frustrated and mad at the world. Then, again, I think some kids cycle. I would have a "good" year and a "bad" year. The bad year was hell on everyone, myself most of all, but also those around me. When I got depressed, I was prone to rages, tantrums, threats...I felt so horrible that I couldn't stand it. I almost wanted to rage so I felt angry rather than depressed and ready to jump off a cliff. I don't think there is one answer for everyone. I did not get better due to any sort of therapy. I feel that the only therapy that ever helped me was long after I was stable on medications, and that was Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Any other therapy just bored me to death or made me feel worse, but I went because I couldn't get medications if I didn't go. I feel it's extremely individual and depends on the cause of the bad behavior in the first place. I doubt anyone can predict the outcome of a difficult child. Also, I was very nervous for two whole years when my drug abusing daughter turned around--I'd known kids who relapsed and were suddenly very much in trouble again. Maturity does't always work. Some things, like bipolar, get worse with age if the cycling isn't stopped. Some kids have executive function issues and plain don't mature. We all know that forty year old adult who acts more like a pouty child. All we can do is cross our fingers, not predict. Very often it's a matter of finding the right diagnosis and medication. medications can change your life--they did for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 41731, member: 1550"] My own experience, as somebody who had a mental illness is that it really depends on the cause of the bad behavior. It's not possible to learn to control, say, severe moodswings and sometimes you can't learn to control rages, and they get worse. Mine got worse as I got older until I found the right medications. My daughter, who is now 22, was a drug abuser and that was the cause of her bad behavior. We threw her out too. She changed when the drug abuse stopped, so there was an obvious reason. My child with autism is getting better every year. In his case, he has a neurological disorder that is being treated very effectively. He's an angel now, no longer frustrated and mad at the world. Then, again, I think some kids cycle. I would have a "good" year and a "bad" year. The bad year was hell on everyone, myself most of all, but also those around me. When I got depressed, I was prone to rages, tantrums, threats...I felt so horrible that I couldn't stand it. I almost wanted to rage so I felt angry rather than depressed and ready to jump off a cliff. I don't think there is one answer for everyone. I did not get better due to any sort of therapy. I feel that the only therapy that ever helped me was long after I was stable on medications, and that was Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Any other therapy just bored me to death or made me feel worse, but I went because I couldn't get medications if I didn't go. I feel it's extremely individual and depends on the cause of the bad behavior in the first place. I doubt anyone can predict the outcome of a difficult child. Also, I was very nervous for two whole years when my drug abusing daughter turned around--I'd known kids who relapsed and were suddenly very much in trouble again. Maturity does't always work. Some things, like bipolar, get worse with age if the cycling isn't stopped. Some kids have executive function issues and plain don't mature. We all know that forty year old adult who acts more like a pouty child. All we can do is cross our fingers, not predict. Very often it's a matter of finding the right diagnosis and medication. medications can change your life--they did for me. [/QUOTE]
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