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When did you hit your own rock bottom with difficult kid?
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<blockquote data-quote="CARP_ENOUGH" data-source="post: 728758" data-attributes="member: 22468"><p>MTIC, I felt like I was reading my own rock bottom incidents ! My rock bottom has been several over a 4 year period. Jan 2016 was when I hit the bottom and then through another layer of granite and more...Stubborn son moved out of home 18, felt he was an adult..after a pot arrest, DUI stop where he passed out asleep with keys in ignition, he then in Jan 2016 stole a phone case from Walmart and was attacked by loss prevention and arrested for not only petit theft, but parole violation. He bailed out and continued pot usage during probation and also by the way had an ignition lock and thousands of dollars in fines and attorney fees which he had to pay selling his nice car we bought him when he graduated HS. Luckily during that 2016 he had an Angel girlfriend who was in the picture and took alot of my burdens putting up with his verbal, drug and irresponsible, reckless behavior. This saint of a girlfriend drove my son around to all meetings, community service, you name it. My rock bottom was because he went to jail for 13 days and then ended up in a pych ward for 2 days after release and has never been the same since. He has become bi-polar, mood swings, jobs every 3 months, moving every quarter, hates his roomates always, seems to have quarrels with most people and it's never his fault. Fast forward to 2017, the girlfriend left him, he lost his job, was in a car accident as a passenger (minor injuries, but enough to receive a $4K settlement after Dr. bills), he sold his other car that he managed to buy after working as a server and who knows what else....the drama has not let up and guess what? That $4K settlement check, he decided to move to Las Vegas for great jobs in Jan of 2018. He lived in hotels for the first 10 days and blamed me of course and had sent me suicidal texts a few times in between. Over the last week, he was almost evicted from his current roomate situation in Las Vegas, but through the grace of God and my bloody knees praying every night, he appears to be surviving ! Every day I wake up with huge anxiety and pray that he is not homeless or destitute but just this week, I've handed him over to God and stopped reading his texts and only take his calls when I feel like it and I feel more at peace and happier! I have realized that this worry as a mother drains your life energy to the point, we as mother's don't want to live any more. This is not fair to those that need us and truly value life and are doing productive, beautiful things in life versus our problem sons. I have a beautiful, sane, responsible daughter 19 and a loving husband who I could no longer see or value because of my pain and suffering with my son. A mother is only as happy as her saddest child, this is so true. This site helps me greatly and I'm so thankful for you and others who have shared their stories. Hugs and glad to hear you have made it through to the other side of the suffering.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CARP_ENOUGH, post: 728758, member: 22468"] MTIC, I felt like I was reading my own rock bottom incidents ! My rock bottom has been several over a 4 year period. Jan 2016 was when I hit the bottom and then through another layer of granite and more...Stubborn son moved out of home 18, felt he was an adult..after a pot arrest, DUI stop where he passed out asleep with keys in ignition, he then in Jan 2016 stole a phone case from Walmart and was attacked by loss prevention and arrested for not only petit theft, but parole violation. He bailed out and continued pot usage during probation and also by the way had an ignition lock and thousands of dollars in fines and attorney fees which he had to pay selling his nice car we bought him when he graduated HS. Luckily during that 2016 he had an Angel girlfriend who was in the picture and took alot of my burdens putting up with his verbal, drug and irresponsible, reckless behavior. This saint of a girlfriend drove my son around to all meetings, community service, you name it. My rock bottom was because he went to jail for 13 days and then ended up in a pych ward for 2 days after release and has never been the same since. He has become bi-polar, mood swings, jobs every 3 months, moving every quarter, hates his roomates always, seems to have quarrels with most people and it's never his fault. Fast forward to 2017, the girlfriend left him, he lost his job, was in a car accident as a passenger (minor injuries, but enough to receive a $4K settlement after Dr. bills), he sold his other car that he managed to buy after working as a server and who knows what else....the drama has not let up and guess what? That $4K settlement check, he decided to move to Las Vegas for great jobs in Jan of 2018. He lived in hotels for the first 10 days and blamed me of course and had sent me suicidal texts a few times in between. Over the last week, he was almost evicted from his current roomate situation in Las Vegas, but through the grace of God and my bloody knees praying every night, he appears to be surviving ! Every day I wake up with huge anxiety and pray that he is not homeless or destitute but just this week, I've handed him over to God and stopped reading his texts and only take his calls when I feel like it and I feel more at peace and happier! I have realized that this worry as a mother drains your life energy to the point, we as mother's don't want to live any more. This is not fair to those that need us and truly value life and are doing productive, beautiful things in life versus our problem sons. I have a beautiful, sane, responsible daughter 19 and a loving husband who I could no longer see or value because of my pain and suffering with my son. A mother is only as happy as her saddest child, this is so true. This site helps me greatly and I'm so thankful for you and others who have shared their stories. Hugs and glad to hear you have made it through to the other side of the suffering. [/QUOTE]
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