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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 294061" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>I agree with Janet. I am not sure if I will ever feel like the other shoe will not drop. As parents of difficult children, we basically have been conditioned over the period of their life to wait for the other shoe. Yet, I find this a horrible way to exist. I want to believe, hope, and thrive in the safety and security of my emotional well being.</p><p></p><p>Matt is doing the same thing as your son, although it has nothing to do with a woman, but more to do with the program he is in. When he visits me, I fear every move he makes - even though he is maturing by leaps and bounds - and has not been violent towards me in any way in almost a year. I feel guilty for not enjoying him more when he is here - and I feel guilty that I fear my own son - yet what is one to do when they have suffered the drama and abuse our kids put us through?</p><p></p><p>I am so conflicted by this - as it seems your are. I wish I had answers, however, it seems the only answer is that we have to take every minute as it comes. We cannot project into the future, or plan on expecting certain things from events - we can only take one minute at a time. And for me that is super hard.</p><p></p><p>Sending hugs & wisdom your way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 294061, member: 3301"] I agree with Janet. I am not sure if I will ever feel like the other shoe will not drop. As parents of difficult children, we basically have been conditioned over the period of their life to wait for the other shoe. Yet, I find this a horrible way to exist. I want to believe, hope, and thrive in the safety and security of my emotional well being. Matt is doing the same thing as your son, although it has nothing to do with a woman, but more to do with the program he is in. When he visits me, I fear every move he makes - even though he is maturing by leaps and bounds - and has not been violent towards me in any way in almost a year. I feel guilty for not enjoying him more when he is here - and I feel guilty that I fear my own son - yet what is one to do when they have suffered the drama and abuse our kids put us through? I am so conflicted by this - as it seems your are. I wish I had answers, however, it seems the only answer is that we have to take every minute as it comes. We cannot project into the future, or plan on expecting certain things from events - we can only take one minute at a time. And for me that is super hard. Sending hugs & wisdom your way. [/QUOTE]
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