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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 372814" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I will tell you that if I had to do it all over again, I would have tried a different approach to medications. I'm not saying that I wouldn't resort to medications eventually, and it did take us 3 years before we finally relented and had difficult child evaluated and eventually put on medications.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">That said, however, if I knew then what I know now, I would have tried other alternative routes to engage difficult child in other outside of school activities. I would have nurtured her quirkiness more, I would have changed our diets and I would have forced supplements before choosing medications. I would have held a harder line with her when she acted out and I would have thrown my computer out the window and smashed it with a sledgehammer. The best 9 months of her teenhood in our home were the nine months following the police confiscating our computer. Suddenly, my dds remembered how to read and play card games and play outside. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I'm not simplifying our difficult child's issues by saying it's all about diet and outside activities, but I am saying that I would have taken a different approach from the beginning of any symptoms instead of believing that all difficult child's issues were a result of my divorce when she was 2 and forcing family therapy and subsequently seeing a Dr for medications. I mean, really, if it was all about the divorce, why didn't easy child have similar issues, Know what I mean?? Also, it was our counselor who suggested having difficult child tested and evaluated ad nausea until she was accepted into Special Education and received services, which added to her feeling like a cast off and outsider among her peers. The bottom line, I would have done a few things differently and by the time I thought this, it was too late - difficult child was set in her ways, the medications had taken their toll and she was a full blown difficult child and things were so completely out of control with her, it was all I could do to keep my sanity most days.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #483d8b">Depending on the severity of the issues your difficult child has, you have to find what works best for you and your family. Often, having a spouse and other children makes it difficult to make huge lifestyle changes in your home - I totally understand that. Also, I used to thank God everyday for the medication risperdal because it virtually eliminated my difficult child's meltdowns. I appreciated how celexa helped difficult child with her depression, however, it also made her manic so it was a double edged sword. When the Dr switched her to a mood disorder medication, the poo really hit the fan, so that wasn't the answer either. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #483d8b">It's a delicate balance and a combination of things that help the poor difficult child get through the teens years and the parents as well. There is no one answer and there is no one technique. The best you can do is research your options and choose what's best for you, difficult child and your family and run with it until it doesn't work anymore. Also, constant communication with the educators really helped me. If they knew I was on constant watch of not only difficult child, but them as well, they seemed to be more cooperative. Some days, I felt like a loose cannon and I think they felt like I was as well, which I think now in retrospect, was a good thing on most days. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #483d8b">It's tiring, isn't it? Always looking for the right way to do things or handle difficult child? I happen to get a lot out of therapy, but I WANT to be there - and that is KEY. We can drag our difficult children to therapy for years but if they don't want to be there, we're pouring money down the drain, in my opinion.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #483d8b">Hugs, just hang in there and keep figuring out new ways to approach things. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 372814, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I will tell you that if I had to do it all over again, I would have tried a different approach to medications. I'm not saying that I wouldn't resort to medications eventually, and it did take us 3 years before we finally relented and had difficult child evaluated and eventually put on medications.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]That said, however, if I knew then what I know now, I would have tried other alternative routes to engage difficult child in other outside of school activities. I would have nurtured her quirkiness more, I would have changed our diets and I would have forced supplements before choosing medications. I would have held a harder line with her when she acted out and I would have thrown my computer out the window and smashed it with a sledgehammer. The best 9 months of her teenhood in our home were the nine months following the police confiscating our computer. Suddenly, my dds remembered how to read and play card games and play outside. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I'm not simplifying our difficult child's issues by saying it's all about diet and outside activities, but I am saying that I would have taken a different approach from the beginning of any symptoms instead of believing that all difficult child's issues were a result of my divorce when she was 2 and forcing family therapy and subsequently seeing a Dr for medications. I mean, really, if it was all about the divorce, why didn't easy child have similar issues, Know what I mean?? Also, it was our counselor who suggested having difficult child tested and evaluated ad nausea until she was accepted into Special Education and received services, which added to her feeling like a cast off and outsider among her peers. The bottom line, I would have done a few things differently and by the time I thought this, it was too late - difficult child was set in her ways, the medications had taken their toll and she was a full blown difficult child and things were so completely out of control with her, it was all I could do to keep my sanity most days.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b]Depending on the severity of the issues your difficult child has, you have to find what works best for you and your family. Often, having a spouse and other children makes it difficult to make huge lifestyle changes in your home - I totally understand that. Also, I used to thank God everyday for the medication risperdal because it virtually eliminated my difficult child's meltdowns. I appreciated how celexa helped difficult child with her depression, however, it also made her manic so it was a double edged sword. When the Dr switched her to a mood disorder medication, the poo really hit the fan, so that wasn't the answer either. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b]It's a delicate balance and a combination of things that help the poor difficult child get through the teens years and the parents as well. There is no one answer and there is no one technique. The best you can do is research your options and choose what's best for you, difficult child and your family and run with it until it doesn't work anymore. Also, constant communication with the educators really helped me. If they knew I was on constant watch of not only difficult child, but them as well, they seemed to be more cooperative. Some days, I felt like a loose cannon and I think they felt like I was as well, which I think now in retrospect, was a good thing on most days. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b]It's tiring, isn't it? Always looking for the right way to do things or handle difficult child? I happen to get a lot out of therapy, but I WANT to be there - and that is KEY. We can drag our difficult children to therapy for years but if they don't want to be there, we're pouring money down the drain, in my opinion.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b]Hugs, just hang in there and keep figuring out new ways to approach things. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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