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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 749009" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Lost,</p><p></p><p>You have had quite a bit to process. </p><p></p><p></p><p>I encourage you to look at this differently. You did not "throw him out" you liberated him so that he can live his own life. When you view this as throwing him out it has a negative connotation. What you did was to tell your son that he needs to start behaving like an adult. You were kind enough to pay his rent for a month. His claim of you making him homeless is not true. He, by his choices have made his life what it is.</p><p></p><p></p><p>First and foremost, your son and daughter have no one to blame but themselves. They are both making conscious choices to do what they are doing. </p><p>As for your daughter, since she still lives at home and is a minor, I would encourage you to get into some family counseling with her. </p><p></p><p></p><p>As for your grandson, I know how much you love him. It can be so hard when there is an innocent child involved. If you ever feel he is in danger or being neglected you may have to consider calling child protective services. </p><p>I totally understand how you feel, the love/hate for your son. I too love my son but hate the life he chooses to live. My ex daughter in law shared with me how my son was always looking at porn online and trying to hook up with strangers. Very sick and disturbing. I do not dwell on that as it serves no good for me. </p><p></p><p>It is only through acceptance that we can set ourselves free from the chaos our difficult adult children bring. We have no control over our adult children but we do have control over how we respond.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 749009, member: 18516"] Hi Lost, You have had quite a bit to process. I encourage you to look at this differently. You did not "throw him out" you liberated him so that he can live his own life. When you view this as throwing him out it has a negative connotation. What you did was to tell your son that he needs to start behaving like an adult. You were kind enough to pay his rent for a month. His claim of you making him homeless is not true. He, by his choices have made his life what it is. First and foremost, your son and daughter have no one to blame but themselves. They are both making conscious choices to do what they are doing. As for your daughter, since she still lives at home and is a minor, I would encourage you to get into some family counseling with her. As for your grandson, I know how much you love him. It can be so hard when there is an innocent child involved. If you ever feel he is in danger or being neglected you may have to consider calling child protective services. I totally understand how you feel, the love/hate for your son. I too love my son but hate the life he chooses to live. My ex daughter in law shared with me how my son was always looking at porn online and trying to hook up with strangers. Very sick and disturbing. I do not dwell on that as it serves no good for me. It is only through acceptance that we can set ourselves free from the chaos our difficult adult children bring. We have no control over our adult children but we do have control over how we respond. ((HUGS)) for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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