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When is total detachment the right thing to do?
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<blockquote data-quote="BackintheSaddle" data-source="post: 617844" data-attributes="member: 17503"><p>Thanks, I needed to hear that!....I have made some decisions this weekend-- I'm not meeting him for breakfast to give him $20 in gas money because he refused to go to therapy and I'm just sick of him trying to act like the 'victim'...and I'm not going to pay his truck insurance anymore....it's paid for this month so I just have to get up the nerve/strength to tell him he's paying next month!...;-)....since my parents have totally taken his lies as truth and said 'so what' that he grabbed and shook their daughter, I provoked him....I haven't even offered to pay them money...I did offer him to help pay for an apartment because if he's ever going to get better, it's not going to be in their house!...I know that from personal experience...</p><p>sorry to hear about your finances though....I hope you're going to find the strength to set some boundaries now that she has a job...it's so hard to do-- not only to make the decision to do it but then to communicate it since I/we know that will mean we're going to be verbally abused and told what horrible parents we are because we don't support them!...that reaction is what has made me avoid setting boundaries...and my son knows it and uses that to 'keep me in line'</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BackintheSaddle, post: 617844, member: 17503"] Thanks, I needed to hear that!....I have made some decisions this weekend-- I'm not meeting him for breakfast to give him $20 in gas money because he refused to go to therapy and I'm just sick of him trying to act like the 'victim'...and I'm not going to pay his truck insurance anymore....it's paid for this month so I just have to get up the nerve/strength to tell him he's paying next month!...;-)....since my parents have totally taken his lies as truth and said 'so what' that he grabbed and shook their daughter, I provoked him....I haven't even offered to pay them money...I did offer him to help pay for an apartment because if he's ever going to get better, it's not going to be in their house!...I know that from personal experience... sorry to hear about your finances though....I hope you're going to find the strength to set some boundaries now that she has a job...it's so hard to do-- not only to make the decision to do it but then to communicate it since I/we know that will mean we're going to be verbally abused and told what horrible parents we are because we don't support them!...that reaction is what has made me avoid setting boundaries...and my son knows it and uses that to 'keep me in line' [/QUOTE]
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