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<blockquote data-quote="Mominator" data-source="post: 647837" data-attributes="member: 18745"><p>Before adopting, I prayed tons. I prayed for kids who needed us and kids we could help. I've told so many people that I've lost count that these kids didn't get a good foundation early in life, and my husband and I were going to fill in those holes if at all possible. This foster/adopt case was difficult and messed up. But so many doors were opened up that I knew we had God's blessings. After the boys were arrested, I kept praying. Doors continued to open. Things that most people who have had experience with the juvenile justice system said they'd never seen before or could never happen have already happened. Again we knew God's blessings. But in dealing with the younger son, it occurred to me that maybe saving 2 or 3 of the 4 was all that my husband and I were meant to do. So I prayed and asked that if it was God's will, the boys would do their therapy and show very visible signs of change, and those changes would be favorably received by the courts. On the other hand, If it wasn't HIS will, then I asked HIM to make it so one or both couldn't come home. </p><p></p><p>I don't want this answer, but I'm starting to think one of my boys will come home and one won't. And it kills me because I've caught so many glimpses of the sweet, scared, anxious little boy underneath the anger and defiance and I don't know how to reach it on a permanent basis. </p><p></p><p>I know I'm strong. I know I will make it through this. I also know the rest of my family will be all right in the long run. But I know too that if this boy makes this decision right now not to open up, not to learn from treatment, he is making a decision that will affect him for the rest of his life. I know there is nothing I can do about it except pray.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mominator, post: 647837, member: 18745"] Before adopting, I prayed tons. I prayed for kids who needed us and kids we could help. I've told so many people that I've lost count that these kids didn't get a good foundation early in life, and my husband and I were going to fill in those holes if at all possible. This foster/adopt case was difficult and messed up. But so many doors were opened up that I knew we had God's blessings. After the boys were arrested, I kept praying. Doors continued to open. Things that most people who have had experience with the juvenile justice system said they'd never seen before or could never happen have already happened. Again we knew God's blessings. But in dealing with the younger son, it occurred to me that maybe saving 2 or 3 of the 4 was all that my husband and I were meant to do. So I prayed and asked that if it was God's will, the boys would do their therapy and show very visible signs of change, and those changes would be favorably received by the courts. On the other hand, If it wasn't HIS will, then I asked HIM to make it so one or both couldn't come home. I don't want this answer, but I'm starting to think one of my boys will come home and one won't. And it kills me because I've caught so many glimpses of the sweet, scared, anxious little boy underneath the anger and defiance and I don't know how to reach it on a permanent basis. I know I'm strong. I know I will make it through this. I also know the rest of my family will be all right in the long run. But I know too that if this boy makes this decision right now not to open up, not to learn from treatment, he is making a decision that will affect him for the rest of his life. I know there is nothing I can do about it except pray. [/QUOTE]
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