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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 479419" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Wow, I can really relate to this. The first times I heard such words. And only this past week, while on the way home after a school party, I had to pull over, and luckily we were right by the police station. I just went in the parking lot but I stood outside of my car to get him to stop the threats and calm down. He was panicked. I said, well if the police walk out and hear you, they are not going to care what I say about your medication, seizures or autism. They are just going to be worried about you hurting mommy. He calmed, we went home...etc. (next day he had a big seizure, so bad mommy but I did what I had to do to get us home safe). Now he is still stuck on the fact that I WANT him in jail I WANT the police to come and take him away and I threaten to call 911 ALL of the time. (I did call twice when he was in crisis/medication. emergency, police always come with ambulance here). He will even be more specific... "I feel like to get a knife and kill you" I have heard normal little kids say things like this, and you laugh knowing they have no resources to do so but you hear "I am so mad and frustrated now". I still hear my son that way since he is so developmentally delayed and has no access to weapons, not even kitchen knives or anything like that, not tools, not child scissors, haha. Not just for danger, but he doesn't have good enough impulse control and he can give himself hair cuts, cut up things that should not be cut up but seem fun to do it, smile. But as he gets older and people dont understand his level of development, I have to explain to him how others hear what he is saying. And of course to be extra careful, I always have to consider that at some point he could get so upset that he really would grab something to try to hurt me. I have never seen that in a planned way, but he has impulsively kicked etc. like what you saw. </p><p></p><p>Not very helpful to just share that I understand but wanted you to know you are not alone. I know lots of parents who have the same struggles with their kids on the spectrum. If he has grown (3 lbs has made a difference for my son growing up) he could need medication adjustment. of course they could be adding to his explosiveness...many of us have found that out and it is tricky to test the theory because you have to go off which has problems of its own. </p><p></p><p>Can you update your neuropsychologist evaluation or get a second opinion about the medications (just a consult if you like your provider--for a second opinion, which they should welcome, or if you dont care for your provider change docs...)</p><p></p><p>Poor kid, he must be very upset to be doing these things. He is so lucky to have you working on his side.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 479419, member: 12886"] Wow, I can really relate to this. The first times I heard such words. And only this past week, while on the way home after a school party, I had to pull over, and luckily we were right by the police station. I just went in the parking lot but I stood outside of my car to get him to stop the threats and calm down. He was panicked. I said, well if the police walk out and hear you, they are not going to care what I say about your medication, seizures or autism. They are just going to be worried about you hurting mommy. He calmed, we went home...etc. (next day he had a big seizure, so bad mommy but I did what I had to do to get us home safe). Now he is still stuck on the fact that I WANT him in jail I WANT the police to come and take him away and I threaten to call 911 ALL of the time. (I did call twice when he was in crisis/medication. emergency, police always come with ambulance here). He will even be more specific... "I feel like to get a knife and kill you" I have heard normal little kids say things like this, and you laugh knowing they have no resources to do so but you hear "I am so mad and frustrated now". I still hear my son that way since he is so developmentally delayed and has no access to weapons, not even kitchen knives or anything like that, not tools, not child scissors, haha. Not just for danger, but he doesn't have good enough impulse control and he can give himself hair cuts, cut up things that should not be cut up but seem fun to do it, smile. But as he gets older and people dont understand his level of development, I have to explain to him how others hear what he is saying. And of course to be extra careful, I always have to consider that at some point he could get so upset that he really would grab something to try to hurt me. I have never seen that in a planned way, but he has impulsively kicked etc. like what you saw. Not very helpful to just share that I understand but wanted you to know you are not alone. I know lots of parents who have the same struggles with their kids on the spectrum. If he has grown (3 lbs has made a difference for my son growing up) he could need medication adjustment. of course they could be adding to his explosiveness...many of us have found that out and it is tricky to test the theory because you have to go off which has problems of its own. Can you update your neuropsychologist evaluation or get a second opinion about the medications (just a consult if you like your provider--for a second opinion, which they should welcome, or if you dont care for your provider change docs...) Poor kid, he must be very upset to be doing these things. He is so lucky to have you working on his side. [/QUOTE]
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