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When no amount of discipline and rewards seem to work?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 402585" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Have to ask some uncomfortable questions. I've adopted four kids and your step son has a lot in common with foster kids who have lived with abuse and drugs and also have been tossed around, yet rejected by an incompetent mother.</p><p></p><p>In his early years, did he get handed around from relative to relative? Did he ever end up in foster care? Did his birthmother (this is IMPORTANT) use drugs and alcohol while she was pregnant...if so, this could cause permanent brain damage which may be why he can't seem to get it together. Alcohol is even worse than other drugs. I adopted a child who was exposed to drugs and alcohol in utero. The kids all have problems to varying degrees. Also kids who are tossed around in their early years often have trouble attaching to other human beings. Has your stepson got a history of cruelty to animals, peeing and pooping inappropriately and/or being fascinated with/playing with fire? by the way, a predisposition to drug addiction is inherited. I am not sure the residential center will be able to help him beyond keeping him from harming himself or others. It all depends on how much is behavioral and how much (and I suspect there is a lot of this) is due to things that were out of his control. If he has a limited ability to attach to people, that causes a whole list of problems. If he is alcohol or drug affected, ditto. How does he do in school? Did he have early problelms/delays? Does he act like he loves you and his dad or is he just nice when he wants something?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 402585, member: 1550"] Have to ask some uncomfortable questions. I've adopted four kids and your step son has a lot in common with foster kids who have lived with abuse and drugs and also have been tossed around, yet rejected by an incompetent mother. In his early years, did he get handed around from relative to relative? Did he ever end up in foster care? Did his birthmother (this is IMPORTANT) use drugs and alcohol while she was pregnant...if so, this could cause permanent brain damage which may be why he can't seem to get it together. Alcohol is even worse than other drugs. I adopted a child who was exposed to drugs and alcohol in utero. The kids all have problems to varying degrees. Also kids who are tossed around in their early years often have trouble attaching to other human beings. Has your stepson got a history of cruelty to animals, peeing and pooping inappropriately and/or being fascinated with/playing with fire? by the way, a predisposition to drug addiction is inherited. I am not sure the residential center will be able to help him beyond keeping him from harming himself or others. It all depends on how much is behavioral and how much (and I suspect there is a lot of this) is due to things that were out of his control. If he has a limited ability to attach to people, that causes a whole list of problems. If he is alcohol or drug affected, ditto. How does he do in school? Did he have early problelms/delays? Does he act like he loves you and his dad or is he just nice when he wants something? [/QUOTE]
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