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When the ‘good’ one falls off the rails
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 743915" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>That’s really interesting Copa! And an angle I hadn’t thought of. There may be a lot of truth here, that he is self sabotaging because of a fear of failure, or a fear of success. I hadn’t heard about the fear of success being related to trauma reaction. But I can see it. And perhaps seeing it with this lens will help me understand, and get past simply being furious with him. </p><p></p><p>Their dad certainly put all of us through a lot of trauma. And with the boys especially, there was also an element of ‘don’t get too big for your britches’ when they were doing something well. ‘Yeah well don’t get full of yourself I can still beat you in you best day’ kind of thing. I wonder if that’s part of it. Thzt constant getting knocked down just when you’re getting up. Perhaps without his father around to do it something in him feels he has to do it to himself. </p><p></p><p>He does need counseling. Definitely</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 743915, member: 23349"] That’s really interesting Copa! And an angle I hadn’t thought of. There may be a lot of truth here, that he is self sabotaging because of a fear of failure, or a fear of success. I hadn’t heard about the fear of success being related to trauma reaction. But I can see it. And perhaps seeing it with this lens will help me understand, and get past simply being furious with him. Their dad certainly put all of us through a lot of trauma. And with the boys especially, there was also an element of ‘don’t get too big for your britches’ when they were doing something well. ‘Yeah well don’t get full of yourself I can still beat you in you best day’ kind of thing. I wonder if that’s part of it. Thzt constant getting knocked down just when you’re getting up. Perhaps without his father around to do it something in him feels he has to do it to himself. He does need counseling. Definitely [/QUOTE]
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