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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 620102" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Sue, encourage Wee to stay in school. It is INCREDIBLY normal/typical for students to go through this at about this point in their college education. The first year or two of a standard college education is largely the same regardless of your chosen field of study. The general education requirements vary somewhat, as you don't see an early childhood education major taking the same math and science classes as a physics major, but mostly you have until sometime in your sophomore year to truly decide on a major.It is uncommon for classes for a specific type of degree to be offered before you are a junior. </p><p></p><p>This makes those first years BOOOOOORRRRRIIIIIINNNNNGGGG, which we all know is so conducive to getting one of our difficult children to do something. Don't laugh (too hard), but I had 11 majors in my first 3 semesters at college. I thought about dropping out many times, but didn't. </p><p></p><p>I assume Wee is in a dorm. Are there things that can be done to make it more comfortable for him? Things to help with sensory issues can calm anxiety and help you cope with a LOT more than you could otherwise. Take a look at his life/routines and see if there are reasonable ways to accommodate any sensory issues and other issues that would contribute to him succeeding in school.</p><p></p><p>Also assure him that as long as he passes the courses he is taking for the general ed requirements, he can put off choosing a major for a while. WHY do this? Many people see choosing a major as saying, "I want to do this for the rest of my entire life." That is a SCARY choice when you are just out of high school. Many kids don't understand at first that a college degree does not shut doors to other fields of work, it opens them even if you studied something different. It can be tough to understand though. </p><p></p><p>Has Wee taken any aptitude tests in the last year or two? NOT SAT or ACT type tests, but tests to help identify what he is good at and/or well suited for. Seeing results of this type of testing can help Wee figure out what he wants to study. It is FAR different to take a test and be told you would be good a this or that than it is to have a parent or high school teacher tell you the same thing. Esp if you are a teenager, because then you are POSITIVE that your parents have no brains at all. The college career center should have aptitude tests and other ways to help Wee figure out what he wants to do.</p><p></p><p>Another thing to contemplate is a gap year. It is more and more common for students to take a year off between high school and college. Studies are showing that students who tae this gap year are more likely to graduate and be successful in their careers. This only applies if certain things are done during the gap year. Backpacking through Europe, the Appalachian Trail, doing missionary work for your church the way Mormon's do, travel to experience the world, working and supporting yourself in a field that interests you, etc... are the kinds of things that make a gap year successful. Staying home and playing video games or hibernating on the computer do not help make it successful Pretty much taking the world on as an adult and exploring it is helpful during a gap year but hiding away from life and people is NOT, esp if you hide in electronic screens and don't support yourself. You are not learning to be an adult if you stay stuck in screens,Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>I really hope that whatever Wee chooses, you know that you did an incredible job of raising him, and you are still doing that job, and of course so is your husband. </p><p></p><p>I hope you did something nice for yourself after a night like that!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 620102, member: 1233"] Sue, encourage Wee to stay in school. It is INCREDIBLY normal/typical for students to go through this at about this point in their college education. The first year or two of a standard college education is largely the same regardless of your chosen field of study. The general education requirements vary somewhat, as you don't see an early childhood education major taking the same math and science classes as a physics major, but mostly you have until sometime in your sophomore year to truly decide on a major.It is uncommon for classes for a specific type of degree to be offered before you are a junior. This makes those first years BOOOOOORRRRRIIIIIINNNNNGGGG, which we all know is so conducive to getting one of our difficult children to do something. Don't laugh (too hard), but I had 11 majors in my first 3 semesters at college. I thought about dropping out many times, but didn't. I assume Wee is in a dorm. Are there things that can be done to make it more comfortable for him? Things to help with sensory issues can calm anxiety and help you cope with a LOT more than you could otherwise. Take a look at his life/routines and see if there are reasonable ways to accommodate any sensory issues and other issues that would contribute to him succeeding in school. Also assure him that as long as he passes the courses he is taking for the general ed requirements, he can put off choosing a major for a while. WHY do this? Many people see choosing a major as saying, "I want to do this for the rest of my entire life." That is a SCARY choice when you are just out of high school. Many kids don't understand at first that a college degree does not shut doors to other fields of work, it opens them even if you studied something different. It can be tough to understand though. Has Wee taken any aptitude tests in the last year or two? NOT SAT or ACT type tests, but tests to help identify what he is good at and/or well suited for. Seeing results of this type of testing can help Wee figure out what he wants to study. It is FAR different to take a test and be told you would be good a this or that than it is to have a parent or high school teacher tell you the same thing. Esp if you are a teenager, because then you are POSITIVE that your parents have no brains at all. The college career center should have aptitude tests and other ways to help Wee figure out what he wants to do. Another thing to contemplate is a gap year. It is more and more common for students to take a year off between high school and college. Studies are showing that students who tae this gap year are more likely to graduate and be successful in their careers. This only applies if certain things are done during the gap year. Backpacking through Europe, the Appalachian Trail, doing missionary work for your church the way Mormon's do, travel to experience the world, working and supporting yourself in a field that interests you, etc... are the kinds of things that make a gap year successful. Staying home and playing video games or hibernating on the computer do not help make it successful Pretty much taking the world on as an adult and exploring it is helpful during a gap year but hiding away from life and people is NOT, esp if you hide in electronic screens and don't support yourself. You are not learning to be an adult if you stay stuck in screens,Know what I mean?? I really hope that whatever Wee chooses, you know that you did an incredible job of raising him, and you are still doing that job, and of course so is your husband. I hope you did something nice for yourself after a night like that! [/QUOTE]
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