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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 94664" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>GG, I disagree with not giving the children the benefit of your wisdom learned. It is the way life was learned from the beginning of time. From mother to daughter and so on. It's why families that have multiple generations living together function better. </p><p>If they ask, you make suggestions of what you would do and what seems reasonable to them. I always ask "what should you do about that? It triggers some thinking in the child. </p><p>I definitely present the opposite viewpoint often times. When there is a complaint about m i l, boss, husband, I ask them what they would think if they were in those same shoes. I ask the questions that make them think about a purchase before they do it. </p><p></p><p>If they don't listen, so be it. I don't intrude but I absolutely believe it is in their best interest to learn when they want to hear it. </p><p></p><p>We learn on the shoulders of those who go before us. Always have and always will. The tough job is not making decisions for them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 94664, member: 3"] GG, I disagree with not giving the children the benefit of your wisdom learned. It is the way life was learned from the beginning of time. From mother to daughter and so on. It's why families that have multiple generations living together function better. If they ask, you make suggestions of what you would do and what seems reasonable to them. I always ask "what should you do about that? It triggers some thinking in the child. I definitely present the opposite viewpoint often times. When there is a complaint about m i l, boss, husband, I ask them what they would think if they were in those same shoes. I ask the questions that make them think about a purchase before they do it. If they don't listen, so be it. I don't intrude but I absolutely believe it is in their best interest to learn when they want to hear it. We learn on the shoulders of those who go before us. Always have and always will. The tough job is not making decisions for them. [/QUOTE]
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