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When to reach out and when to let them reach out?
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 498203"><p>I've think the tendency to be vague w parents is pretty typical of difficult child's AND pcs who are transitioning to adulthood</p><p></p><p>I struggle with this too- both with difficult child and pc17 - so I try to specific in my communications. Funny thing is that I don't try to read into it w easy child-I am just so used to 2nd guessing everything w difficult child!</p><p></p><p>So, when she asked about lunch, I would reply-"Love to-Panera at 1:00"</p><p></p><p>Or when she didn't call at 8:00, I might call her at 8:30 and say " I didn't hear from you at 8:00, so I thought I'd call you..."</p><p></p><p>With my own difficult child (and easy child), I try to be specific. Instead of texting or asking "Do you know what time you will be home?" (which leads to "not sure, I'll let you know") I ask "When will you be home?" I've finally learned not to hope they will volunteer the information I want- so I just flat out ask. Likewise when either says vaguely, "we should (see this movie, eat Chinese, etc) I reply -"ok, does Thursday work? "</p><p></p><p>In an honest full disclosure - I've learned to do this w H too</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 498203"] I've think the tendency to be vague w parents is pretty typical of difficult child's AND pcs who are transitioning to adulthood I struggle with this too- both with difficult child and pc17 - so I try to specific in my communications. Funny thing is that I don't try to read into it w easy child-I am just so used to 2nd guessing everything w difficult child! So, when she asked about lunch, I would reply-"Love to-Panera at 1:00" Or when she didn't call at 8:00, I might call her at 8:30 and say " I didn't hear from you at 8:00, so I thought I'd call you..." With my own difficult child (and easy child), I try to be specific. Instead of texting or asking "Do you know what time you will be home?" (which leads to "not sure, I'll let you know") I ask "When will you be home?" I've finally learned not to hope they will volunteer the information I want- so I just flat out ask. Likewise when either says vaguely, "we should (see this movie, eat Chinese, etc) I reply -"ok, does Thursday work? " In an honest full disclosure - I've learned to do this w H too [/QUOTE]
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