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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 741177" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have been on this forum at least a decade. </p><p></p><p>Many parents who have posted in the forum have bought homes and other dwellings for their troubled and /or addicted adult kids. Almost always they ended up destroying the generous giftbofva home and end up being back on the streets. You need to keep up a house, pay taxes, not allow party friends to put holes in the walls, replace things that break etc. Keeping up a house requires a decent job. </p><p></p><p>Elsi, do not feel badly about not being able to afford homes for C and S. They most likely would end up losing them in some way or destroying them. One parent here, who only posted a few times, was livid and devestated because her daughter sold the house for the money and spent all the money and was homeless again.</p><p></p><p>Theblottery? Most lottery winners cant manage the tyoebof money they get and end up broke. Our kuds probably would too.</p><p></p><p>You will do all you can while you are here. They will do what they can or are willing to do afterward. I agree that our kids who dont act happy and live desperate lives are not content. My own son is not homeless but he is very unhappy. He acts how he feels.....unhappy. But I have tried everything and all I can do is listen to him. When I leave he has made no friends...he will be alone. It makes me sad but I am all out of thinking of anything I could say or do to help. He refuses therapy, seeing a medical doctor and going places to make friends. I am releaved he has his own home, but he is so mentally fragile, he could lose his high paying job. Inexpect it. Then who will pay his high mortgage and fix things when they go wrong?</p><p></p><p>We can only give what they will use well and take care of.</p><p></p><p>I don't have a ton of money either. Please....you are doing all you can. And that is all anyone CAN do. </p><p></p><p>This is enough.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 741177, member: 1550"] I have been on this forum at least a decade. Many parents who have posted in the forum have bought homes and other dwellings for their troubled and /or addicted adult kids. Almost always they ended up destroying the generous giftbofva home and end up being back on the streets. You need to keep up a house, pay taxes, not allow party friends to put holes in the walls, replace things that break etc. Keeping up a house requires a decent job. Elsi, do not feel badly about not being able to afford homes for C and S. They most likely would end up losing them in some way or destroying them. One parent here, who only posted a few times, was livid and devestated because her daughter sold the house for the money and spent all the money and was homeless again. Theblottery? Most lottery winners cant manage the tyoebof money they get and end up broke. Our kuds probably would too. You will do all you can while you are here. They will do what they can or are willing to do afterward. I agree that our kids who dont act happy and live desperate lives are not content. My own son is not homeless but he is very unhappy. He acts how he feels.....unhappy. But I have tried everything and all I can do is listen to him. When I leave he has made no friends...he will be alone. It makes me sad but I am all out of thinking of anything I could say or do to help. He refuses therapy, seeing a medical doctor and going places to make friends. I am releaved he has his own home, but he is so mentally fragile, he could lose his high paying job. Inexpect it. Then who will pay his high mortgage and fix things when they go wrong? We can only give what they will use well and take care of. I don't have a ton of money either. Please....you are doing all you can. And that is all anyone CAN do. This is enough. [/QUOTE]
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