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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 741216" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Smithmom. Every single *reasonable living situation my son has lost because of his pot, and because he was unwilling to conform to rules. We were the last in a long line. He refuses to accept that what he does affects others negatively and others have a right to request that he change, in order to remain close to them. </p><p></p><p>He will push the limit, and then he is out.</p><p></p><p>The kind of compromising that each of us does to keep a job or to live with others, he is unwilling to do. People who do not know him well or close will insist that he is wonderful and marvelous, cultured, verbal and well-educated. But when he is pushed, he falls apart. He feels he cannot and should not give up his weed. It is essential to his life. And everything else is secondary. He had a very good situation in a sober living home. Nothing at all was asked of him. Except sobriety. He complied to a point, until he was thrown out. There were other treatment programs before that. He sees no earthly reason why he would stop using substances. None. To him, everybody else is wrong.</p><p></p><p>I try to not even think about how far he would be willing to fall, because we are in that situation now. The degradation he has accepted is mindboggling to me. Who knows how much worse this can get? But I feel certain that we have to go down this road now while I am still alive. There exists at least a chance that when forced to choose, with everything stripped away, family, friends, home, maybe there is a chance he will choose in his best interest. As long as I enable him there is no chance at all that he will do so. I have proven that.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for the information and the support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 741216, member: 18958"] Smithmom. Every single *reasonable living situation my son has lost because of his pot, and because he was unwilling to conform to rules. We were the last in a long line. He refuses to accept that what he does affects others negatively and others have a right to request that he change, in order to remain close to them. He will push the limit, and then he is out. The kind of compromising that each of us does to keep a job or to live with others, he is unwilling to do. People who do not know him well or close will insist that he is wonderful and marvelous, cultured, verbal and well-educated. But when he is pushed, he falls apart. He feels he cannot and should not give up his weed. It is essential to his life. And everything else is secondary. He had a very good situation in a sober living home. Nothing at all was asked of him. Except sobriety. He complied to a point, until he was thrown out. There were other treatment programs before that. He sees no earthly reason why he would stop using substances. None. To him, everybody else is wrong. I try to not even think about how far he would be willing to fall, because we are in that situation now. The degradation he has accepted is mindboggling to me. Who knows how much worse this can get? But I feel certain that we have to go down this road now while I am still alive. There exists at least a chance that when forced to choose, with everything stripped away, family, friends, home, maybe there is a chance he will choose in his best interest. As long as I enable him there is no chance at all that he will do so. I have proven that. Thank you for the information and the support. [/QUOTE]
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