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When you take the place of the real abuser in your abusers life
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 666898" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would miss my kids if they left, but it would be their life, their decision. Why shouldn't you have experienced life the way you wanted to? What a strange way of looking at you, Copa. As for mothers hanging up on us, mine didn't even call me. If I hadn't called her, she wouldn't have called me for over ten years.</p><p></p><p>F-them. Sorry. Why didn't we get it earlier? Why did we try so hard? What a waste. Yet, as we were trying, we WERE living our lives the way we wanted to.</p><p></p><p>So there, Mothers!!!</p><p></p><p></p><p>Don't even answer. This either is my sister or somebody writing for her. Just continue. I read it and knew right away. There is an ignore function too, which I have already used. If this was really about how we should work on us and not talk about our sisters in a totally anonymous way, she would have addressed all of us, not just me. This is sort of what I have had to deal with</p><p></p><p>Please don't defend me. It is her. Just ignore it. I knew she might decide to post here. And, as I have learned to do, I read one or two sentences and that was it. I do not read abusive stuff addressed to me, either here, in e-mail or by mail. I have gotten good at ignoring written abuse.And don't forget...she reads this and even got my brother to read it. </p><p></p><p>Cedar and Copa, I would rather keep doing what we were doing which is to focus on our healing, which includes all of our FOO and how to detach and move on, which I know we have all been doing very well.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Copa, I like this very much. We are indeed complete people, maybe moreso without than with them. We have made lives for ourselves that do not include them and that's good, as we are toxic to each other. We do our abusers no good when we engage them. That is the same as enabling them to attack us. I would rather not enable anyone to do anything that I'm trying so hard not to do myself.</p><p></p><p>We never needed them as much as we thought we did and they didn't need us at all. We were kidding ourselves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 666898, member: 1550"] I would miss my kids if they left, but it would be their life, their decision. Why shouldn't you have experienced life the way you wanted to? What a strange way of looking at you, Copa. As for mothers hanging up on us, mine didn't even call me. If I hadn't called her, she wouldn't have called me for over ten years. F-them. Sorry. Why didn't we get it earlier? Why did we try so hard? What a waste. Yet, as we were trying, we WERE living our lives the way we wanted to. So there, Mothers!!! Don't even answer. This either is my sister or somebody writing for her. Just continue. I read it and knew right away. There is an ignore function too, which I have already used. If this was really about how we should work on us and not talk about our sisters in a totally anonymous way, she would have addressed all of us, not just me. This is sort of what I have had to deal with Please don't defend me. It is her. Just ignore it. I knew she might decide to post here. And, as I have learned to do, I read one or two sentences and that was it. I do not read abusive stuff addressed to me, either here, in e-mail or by mail. I have gotten good at ignoring written abuse.And don't forget...she reads this and even got my brother to read it. Cedar and Copa, I would rather keep doing what we were doing which is to focus on our healing, which includes all of our FOO and how to detach and move on, which I know we have all been doing very well. Copa, I like this very much. We are indeed complete people, maybe moreso without than with them. We have made lives for ourselves that do not include them and that's good, as we are toxic to each other. We do our abusers no good when we engage them. That is the same as enabling them to attack us. I would rather not enable anyone to do anything that I'm trying so hard not to do myself. We never needed them as much as we thought we did and they didn't need us at all. We were kidding ourselves. [/QUOTE]
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