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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 751106" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Try to be calm. Your husband may just be spouting off, without thought. But then, again...</p><p></p><p>Does he really want to see the baby with your daughter, who is doing all of these risky things. Because what he is proposing really, is this. As well, if he is suggesting that she care for the baby in your home, is he okay that she drink and drug in your house, and speak with and text her compadres and hook ups from your house with the baby there, and perhaps even bring these people to the house, with the baby there? Is this what he wants? Or conversely is he suggesting that she bring the baby to her house, and do these things with the baby there, and bring those people around the baby? Is this what he is suggesting?</p><p></p><p>If that's what he wants, is he thinking of surrendering the baby to your daughter, that she take the baby back? Is that what he wants? And if that is the case, is he prepared that your daughter lose custody of the baby for neglect and that your grandson go into the system? Is he prepared for that? Because if your daughter blows it, Child Protective Services will take over and they will control the baby. Is that what your husband wants? Because that is the risk he would be taking. I would for sure let him know what he is dealing with. Because in my mind this is where his position could well lead.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is not equipped to parent or to care for a child if she is drugging and drinking and prostituting. She has the legal right to do so, now, to take custody of the baby. But if she takes the baby and continues these behaviors there is a big chance she will either harm the baby or lose the baby. I would let my husband know that. Up front.</p><p></p><p>He has every right to want what he wants. But he needs to take responsibility for it, for what could come down the pike.</p><p></p><p>I really, really understand your husband's position. But I think it is a risky, risky proposition. Without an upside. If there was not a baby involved I would say go for it. But the baby is here. The baby can't be wished away. The more I think about it, the more concerned I get.</p><p></p><p>Still, please try not to worry. I will worry for you. I don't like this one bit. I feel for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 751106, member: 18958"] Try to be calm. Your husband may just be spouting off, without thought. But then, again... Does he really want to see the baby with your daughter, who is doing all of these risky things. Because what he is proposing really, is this. As well, if he is suggesting that she care for the baby in your home, is he okay that she drink and drug in your house, and speak with and text her compadres and hook ups from your house with the baby there, and perhaps even bring these people to the house, with the baby there? Is this what he wants? Or conversely is he suggesting that she bring the baby to her house, and do these things with the baby there, and bring those people around the baby? Is this what he is suggesting? If that's what he wants, is he thinking of surrendering the baby to your daughter, that she take the baby back? Is that what he wants? And if that is the case, is he prepared that your daughter lose custody of the baby for neglect and that your grandson go into the system? Is he prepared for that? Because if your daughter blows it, Child Protective Services will take over and they will control the baby. Is that what your husband wants? Because that is the risk he would be taking. I would for sure let him know what he is dealing with. Because in my mind this is where his position could well lead. Your daughter is not equipped to parent or to care for a child if she is drugging and drinking and prostituting. She has the legal right to do so, now, to take custody of the baby. But if she takes the baby and continues these behaviors there is a big chance she will either harm the baby or lose the baby. I would let my husband know that. Up front. He has every right to want what he wants. But he needs to take responsibility for it, for what could come down the pike. I really, really understand your husband's position. But I think it is a risky, risky proposition. Without an upside. If there was not a baby involved I would say go for it. But the baby is here. The baby can't be wished away. The more I think about it, the more concerned I get. Still, please try not to worry. I will worry for you. I don't like this one bit. I feel for you. [/QUOTE]
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