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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 751108" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I get what you are saying here but I don't agree fully with it.</p><p></p><p>The consequences are fully your daughter's. This is her baby. She had him and she chooses to be unequipped to care for and raise him. You have taken responsibility on an interim, provisional basis. You did not sign on to raise this child, although many of us here on the forum wish you had legal standing, either temporarily or permanently.</p><p></p><p>But all of that said, I do agree with you, really. It's one thing to accept that she decides to take the baby. You acknowledge that you do not have legal rights, and you have accepted this, at least until now. If she took him, she would be the driver here.</p><p></p><p>But to say, okay, I give up. Or okay, do it your way. Or, okay, it's too much hassle. That is another story. I agree. You love this baby. He's yours, really--whether as grandma or mother-substitute. That can't be overlooked.</p><p></p><p>From all of what I have experienced of you here, you would be stricken, overcome with grief and loss and worry, if this baby was in peril. I can't even type more, with the thought of this.</p><p></p><p>We are going someplace where we don't need to go, this worrying. This will not, cannot happen. That's how I feel, but I recognize I don't get a vote. But you do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 751108, member: 18958"] I get what you are saying here but I don't agree fully with it. The consequences are fully your daughter's. This is her baby. She had him and she chooses to be unequipped to care for and raise him. You have taken responsibility on an interim, provisional basis. You did not sign on to raise this child, although many of us here on the forum wish you had legal standing, either temporarily or permanently. But all of that said, I do agree with you, really. It's one thing to accept that she decides to take the baby. You acknowledge that you do not have legal rights, and you have accepted this, at least until now. If she took him, she would be the driver here. But to say, okay, I give up. Or okay, do it your way. Or, okay, it's too much hassle. That is another story. I agree. You love this baby. He's yours, really--whether as grandma or mother-substitute. That can't be overlooked. From all of what I have experienced of you here, you would be stricken, overcome with grief and loss and worry, if this baby was in peril. I can't even type more, with the thought of this. We are going someplace where we don't need to go, this worrying. This will not, cannot happen. That's how I feel, but I recognize I don't get a vote. But you do. [/QUOTE]
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