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<blockquote data-quote="goldenguru" data-source="post: 80243" data-attributes="member: 1545"><p>Thanks so much for the responses!</p><p></p><p>Fran ~ My father put the gun under lock and key when she pulled it on my son. So in that respect he is being responsible. I just don't understand how he can't see the severity of her mental deterioration.</p><p></p><p>EN~ I'm sorry about your family situation. My parents aren't dangerous people. They are dear people. I would never cut ties ... detach a little - probably.</p><p></p><p>Janet~ I'm not negating the fact that she probably has a lot of pain. My concern is that 1) she isn't doing any other non-narcotic things to manage the disease IE: physical therapy, regular gentle exercise. My purpose in giving her articles is to show her that there are other methods (in addition to narcotics) in treating this disorder. 2) Her condition never goes into remission. I have read plenty that over the course of three or four years she should be experiencing periods of remission where such heavy narcotics are not necessary. 3) The drug that she is currently taking is phentnayl (not sure on spelling). The FDA has <strong>mandated</strong> that this drug be prescribed ONLY in the final stages of terminal cancer, and only for 'break through' pain. 4)I have observed her drug seeking behavior. 5) In addition to morphine lollipops she regularly takes Vicodin, Valium, muscle relaxers, and Ambien (sleepers). I fear that some day her body is going to stop metabolizing all of this and put her in a coma. I think my fears are legit. 6) She categorically REFUSES to get a second opinion. Why?</p><p></p><p>A few months ago they were out for dinner. Just before we sat down to eat she stated that she 'was getting a migraine'. An almost daily event. What surprised me was that she wanted to pack up some meals 'to go'. And she did. She got two plates out of my cupboard ... fixed them up ... covered them with saran wrap and went home to 'medicate'. What struck me as really, really, really odd is that when you are having a migraine the LAST thing on your mind is food. I know when I've had migraines I stagger to the bedroom to close the blinds and crawl in bed. I would never be thinking about dinner. It just didn't add up.</p><p></p><p>What is the definition of dependence? How does that differ from addiction? If my mom was doing illegal drugs to the point that she had quit living wouldn't we consider her an addict? </p><p></p><p>I don't judge my mom. I love my mom. I worry that these drugs are going to kill my mom and that we are going to stand around her casket and ask "Why didn't we do more?".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goldenguru, post: 80243, member: 1545"] Thanks so much for the responses! Fran ~ My father put the gun under lock and key when she pulled it on my son. So in that respect he is being responsible. I just don't understand how he can't see the severity of her mental deterioration. EN~ I'm sorry about your family situation. My parents aren't dangerous people. They are dear people. I would never cut ties ... detach a little - probably. Janet~ I'm not negating the fact that she probably has a lot of pain. My concern is that 1) she isn't doing any other non-narcotic things to manage the disease IE: physical therapy, regular gentle exercise. My purpose in giving her articles is to show her that there are other methods (in addition to narcotics) in treating this disorder. 2) Her condition never goes into remission. I have read plenty that over the course of three or four years she should be experiencing periods of remission where such heavy narcotics are not necessary. 3) The drug that she is currently taking is phentnayl (not sure on spelling). The FDA has [b]mandated[/b] that this drug be prescribed ONLY in the final stages of terminal cancer, and only for 'break through' pain. 4)I have observed her drug seeking behavior. 5) In addition to morphine lollipops she regularly takes Vicodin, Valium, muscle relaxers, and Ambien (sleepers). I fear that some day her body is going to stop metabolizing all of this and put her in a coma. I think my fears are legit. 6) She categorically REFUSES to get a second opinion. Why? A few months ago they were out for dinner. Just before we sat down to eat she stated that she 'was getting a migraine'. An almost daily event. What surprised me was that she wanted to pack up some meals 'to go'. And she did. She got two plates out of my cupboard ... fixed them up ... covered them with saran wrap and went home to 'medicate'. What struck me as really, really, really odd is that when you are having a migraine the LAST thing on your mind is food. I know when I've had migraines I stagger to the bedroom to close the blinds and crawl in bed. I would never be thinking about dinner. It just didn't add up. What is the definition of dependence? How does that differ from addiction? If my mom was doing illegal drugs to the point that she had quit living wouldn't we consider her an addict? I don't judge my mom. I love my mom. I worry that these drugs are going to kill my mom and that we are going to stand around her casket and ask "Why didn't we do more?". [/QUOTE]
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