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<blockquote data-quote="jal" data-source="post: 574684" data-attributes="member: 3477"><p>You and husband need to have a serious talk. Throwing aside any diagnosis's at this point your husband is allowing your son to walk all over him. My husband was not the discipliner at first, I was. My husband grew up an only child with his mom and she let him have & do everything. Luckily, my husband is not a spoiled brat. He's a really good guy, but can be a softee at times. I will give you an example, our difficult child is 10. His new cherished thing is Xbox live with his friends after school. Wed night it was time for bed and he's bouncing in his room...this goes on, he is told to settle, but does not. husband goes in there to tell him to settle and difficult child tells him to stick it up his a**. Oh, no you didn't..not in MY house do you speak to either of us that way. I went down to his room and told him no Xbox on Thur. A bit of a meltdown and to sleep he went. He's been pushing boundries with some minor words lately and he is on notice it will not be tolerated and what the punishment/consequence will be.</p><p></p><p>Jump to last night. I pick him up from the after school program and have to run to my parents house because they are out of town. He says I want to get home quick, I say why, you have nothing to do. He says yes, Xbox...Don't you remember last night, what you said? This brings on a meltdown of crying and begging. At which point I park my car in my parents driveway and leave him to cry it out while I take care of the house, etc.</p><p></p><p>I'm in for about 20 min and husband texts me "are you OK?" because I am not home yet and its getting later. I text him about the crying fit over the video game. I leave, difficult child is calm, get home and husband is like I was going to tell you to let it go and let him play for tonight. I said, that's not right, he will not learn to respect us if we tell him no and then give it to him. If I've said no to this kid, he doesn't get it ever since he was little. husband a lot of times has reversed his no's, but he's gotten a lot better over time. husband agreed and realized it was the right thing to do. difficult child was respectful and nice for the rest of the night (even with no Xbox) and this morning. He is 10, so he is learning, but you have to stick to your guns.</p><p></p><p>By saying no to the gatorade, taking the verbal assault and then taking him to go get the gatorade, your husband is just letting your son know that cursing and throwing a fit you will get what you want and we all know the world doesn't work that way. I do not have a magic answer in getting your husband to understand, but you have to try to get him to see that he is allowing a 14 year old to control him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jal, post: 574684, member: 3477"] You and husband need to have a serious talk. Throwing aside any diagnosis's at this point your husband is allowing your son to walk all over him. My husband was not the discipliner at first, I was. My husband grew up an only child with his mom and she let him have & do everything. Luckily, my husband is not a spoiled brat. He's a really good guy, but can be a softee at times. I will give you an example, our difficult child is 10. His new cherished thing is Xbox live with his friends after school. Wed night it was time for bed and he's bouncing in his room...this goes on, he is told to settle, but does not. husband goes in there to tell him to settle and difficult child tells him to stick it up his a**. Oh, no you didn't..not in MY house do you speak to either of us that way. I went down to his room and told him no Xbox on Thur. A bit of a meltdown and to sleep he went. He's been pushing boundries with some minor words lately and he is on notice it will not be tolerated and what the punishment/consequence will be. Jump to last night. I pick him up from the after school program and have to run to my parents house because they are out of town. He says I want to get home quick, I say why, you have nothing to do. He says yes, Xbox...Don't you remember last night, what you said? This brings on a meltdown of crying and begging. At which point I park my car in my parents driveway and leave him to cry it out while I take care of the house, etc. I'm in for about 20 min and husband texts me "are you OK?" because I am not home yet and its getting later. I text him about the crying fit over the video game. I leave, difficult child is calm, get home and husband is like I was going to tell you to let it go and let him play for tonight. I said, that's not right, he will not learn to respect us if we tell him no and then give it to him. If I've said no to this kid, he doesn't get it ever since he was little. husband a lot of times has reversed his no's, but he's gotten a lot better over time. husband agreed and realized it was the right thing to do. difficult child was respectful and nice for the rest of the night (even with no Xbox) and this morning. He is 10, so he is learning, but you have to stick to your guns. By saying no to the gatorade, taking the verbal assault and then taking him to go get the gatorade, your husband is just letting your son know that cursing and throwing a fit you will get what you want and we all know the world doesn't work that way. I do not have a magic answer in getting your husband to understand, but you have to try to get him to see that he is allowing a 14 year old to control him. [/QUOTE]
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