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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 385131" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I strongly suspect that there isn't anyone who knows how to handle him. This generation of kids is likely the first to have moms who used meth - now we are seeing the results of in utero meth exposure and no one knows how to handle the kids. Unless he makes a CHOICE to work to combat the problems he has, and to work with the medications and accommodations, he is not likely to change or to succeed. Add to that his body was exposed to meth and it is likely that he will crave the drug at some point, or if he ever tries it he will have an addiction that is harder to break than normal because his brain and body were accustomed to it at such a young age. I have no proof that this would happen, but it sure seems logical that if you were exposed as your body formed then you would crave it later and/or have a stronger addiction if you ever tried it. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway, I doubt returning to your home would amount to anything positive. I am sad to say this, but it just won't do much for him unless and until he decides he wants to make changes. Given the schizoid part of his dxs, it is very likely that he is going to be unable to control some aspects of his problems. Is he on any medications, and is he seeing a good child and adolescent psychiatrist? Of course if he is using pot and/or other drugs, medications are likely to not work because the drug use. </p><p> </p><p>What are your husband's feelings/thoughts on the subject of difficult child coming home to you? Have you told him you would feel unsafe if difficult child came home because his past threats and behavior, plus his current behavior in the foster home? </p><p> </p><p>I think that your difficult child probably needs to go to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but they are incredibly expensive and it is very hard to get funding from the courts or anywhere else to send him there. It certainly isn't something that a family could afford unless they had VERY deep pockets or could get a second big mortgage or something. </p><p> </p><p>I would be against reunification with difficult child esp with his current attitudes. Given drug use is suspected (if he admits to pot it is almost guaranteed that he is doing MUCH more, according to the addicts I have known) I would be even more against it, esp because drugs can make all his disorders MUCH MUCH worse.</p><p> </p><p>I wish I could say something more positive. Hopefully at some point difficult child will decide he wants to change things. At that point it may be possible to have a more "normal" relationship with him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 385131, member: 1233"] I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I strongly suspect that there isn't anyone who knows how to handle him. This generation of kids is likely the first to have moms who used meth - now we are seeing the results of in utero meth exposure and no one knows how to handle the kids. Unless he makes a CHOICE to work to combat the problems he has, and to work with the medications and accommodations, he is not likely to change or to succeed. Add to that his body was exposed to meth and it is likely that he will crave the drug at some point, or if he ever tries it he will have an addiction that is harder to break than normal because his brain and body were accustomed to it at such a young age. I have no proof that this would happen, but it sure seems logical that if you were exposed as your body formed then you would crave it later and/or have a stronger addiction if you ever tried it. Anyway, I doubt returning to your home would amount to anything positive. I am sad to say this, but it just won't do much for him unless and until he decides he wants to make changes. Given the schizoid part of his dxs, it is very likely that he is going to be unable to control some aspects of his problems. Is he on any medications, and is he seeing a good child and adolescent psychiatrist? Of course if he is using pot and/or other drugs, medications are likely to not work because the drug use. What are your husband's feelings/thoughts on the subject of difficult child coming home to you? Have you told him you would feel unsafe if difficult child came home because his past threats and behavior, plus his current behavior in the foster home? I think that your difficult child probably needs to go to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but they are incredibly expensive and it is very hard to get funding from the courts or anywhere else to send him there. It certainly isn't something that a family could afford unless they had VERY deep pockets or could get a second big mortgage or something. I would be against reunification with difficult child esp with his current attitudes. Given drug use is suspected (if he admits to pot it is almost guaranteed that he is doing MUCH more, according to the addicts I have known) I would be even more against it, esp because drugs can make all his disorders MUCH MUCH worse. I wish I could say something more positive. Hopefully at some point difficult child will decide he wants to change things. At that point it may be possible to have a more "normal" relationship with him. [/QUOTE]
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