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Where do you get the strength to keep putting up with this?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 476473" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Lots of us have thrown out our kids (I would post on Parent Emeritus rather than here...all those parents have kids over 18). But I did have a child who I had to make leave after eighteen so I'll try to answer the best I can.</p><p></p><p>First of all, ADHD/ODD is a rather unusual, simplistic diagnosis for an older teen who is still unable to behave. Also, I don't care if you tested him once in the last month...I'll bet he is using drugs of some sort and has been for a long time. ADHD doesnt' cause that degree of defiance in teens and ODD is more a young child's diagnosis. I would take him for another opinion if he will go. Frankly, I'd lose the therapists and move on to a psychiatrist. Therapists in my opinion are often not very helpful, and are easy for our teens to fool.</p><p></p><p>Does he know that if he doesn't try to get help and respect your rules that he is on borrowed time at your house?</p><p></p><p>Again, I'd go to Parent Emeritus for some really good advice from experienced moms of older difficult children. It would also help to give us a history on your son, from infancy to now. Was he ever a nice, normal kid? Are there psychiatric problems on either side of his family tree? Can he relate to his same age peers? Any quirks? How was his early development and school career? Does he live with both biological parents? Any siblings?</p><p></p><p>The more you tell us, the more we can give good support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 476473, member: 1550"] Lots of us have thrown out our kids (I would post on Parent Emeritus rather than here...all those parents have kids over 18). But I did have a child who I had to make leave after eighteen so I'll try to answer the best I can. First of all, ADHD/ODD is a rather unusual, simplistic diagnosis for an older teen who is still unable to behave. Also, I don't care if you tested him once in the last month...I'll bet he is using drugs of some sort and has been for a long time. ADHD doesnt' cause that degree of defiance in teens and ODD is more a young child's diagnosis. I would take him for another opinion if he will go. Frankly, I'd lose the therapists and move on to a psychiatrist. Therapists in my opinion are often not very helpful, and are easy for our teens to fool. Does he know that if he doesn't try to get help and respect your rules that he is on borrowed time at your house? Again, I'd go to Parent Emeritus for some really good advice from experienced moms of older difficult children. It would also help to give us a history on your son, from infancy to now. Was he ever a nice, normal kid? Are there psychiatric problems on either side of his family tree? Can he relate to his same age peers? Any quirks? How was his early development and school career? Does he live with both biological parents? Any siblings? The more you tell us, the more we can give good support. [/QUOTE]
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